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7 Tweets That Sum Up What It's Like to Be a Groom

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While being a groom seems like it’s all fun and games, it’s also a whole lot of work. There’s way more to do than just getting your crew together to spend a weekend away on a bachelor party or spending an afternoon shopping for a wedding tuxedo. Often times, you’ll find yourself as your fiancé’s partner-in-crime, sweating over making key wedding decisions, plotting over who should make the guest list, and figuring out how to put out fires that stem from family drama you didn’t see coming.

Wondering what you should keep in mind as the wedding adventure progresses? Here are seven tweets that totally sum up what your job looks like as a groom.

1. You Play the Ultimate Waiting Game

As a groom, it can feel like from the time you propose to the time the wedding actually happens, there’s a lot of waiting around. While your fiancé makes some of the decisions and picks out her wedding dress, which is hush hush until you see her on the big day, you might find that your to-do list is mostly empty but the anxious nerves of excitement are full-blown as you count down the days until you can say I do.

2. You Realize It’s More Work Than You Could Have Imagined

Planning a wedding is more intense than you probably could have ever guessed it to be. You’ll go on many weekend searches to find the right vendors, spend hours picking out the right decorations, and even pine over figuring out the right words to use during your vows. Get ready to spend a lot of quality time acting as a co-wedding planner with your fiancé.

3. You Have to Do Some Hiding

While you’re in on most of the decision making, there are a few things that your fiancé might want to keep a secret from you. The outfit they picked out, the gift they are giving you on the wedding day, and even what you they look like after their hair and makeup is done, might all be something they want to close your eyes to until the big moment comes.

4. You Have to Groom Yourself More Than Usual

Thought you could just get a haircut and roll out of bed to the wedding? There’s going to be some extra glam needed for you to prepare for the wedding day. You might want to consider getting a fresh shave and even getting a manicure so that your nails look perfect in pictures.

5. Football Sundays are Now Florist Sundays

Don’t plan too many extracurricular activities or weekend outings with your friends unless you’re ok with canceling them last minute. While Sundays in the past might have been preoccupied with football games or golf outings, most of them, before the wedding, will be spent with wedding vendors.

6. There’s Pressure to Write Meaningful Vows

Even if in the past you weren’t known to be very sappy, when it comes to your vows having the most perfect word to recite to your partner, in front of all of your guests, will mean the world to them. Put in thought, give yourself time to write, and practice your vows before the big day comes around and you have your one chance to read them in front of everyone.

See more: 17 Things Your Groom Is Thinking—But Won’t Tell You

7. There are Rules to Follow

Weddings come with a long list of traditions, customs, and rules to follow. Before the big day arrives, make sure that you and your fiancé are on the same page about what to expect and what you’re able to do or not able to do at the wedding. Even if you have a great idea for attire to wear, get the OK before buying the suit of your dreams.

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How to Pick a Honeymoon Destination: 11 Tips to Help Narrow It Down

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With so many bustling cities, pristine beaches and majestic mountains all around the world, narrowing down your honeymoon location is no easy task. If you’re wondering how to pick a honeymoon destination, you’re not alone. It can be a complicated decision (especially in the midst of wedding planning!).

“Picking a honeymoon destination should be a true reflection of who you are as a couple,” says Lydia J. Redmond, director of weddings at The Ritz-Carlton Resorts of Naples. “Your honeymoon should be a ‘trip of a lifetime,’ so choose a destination you’ll never forget and dream about returning to on future anniversaries.”

Whether you’re looking for a honeymoon that’s jam-packed with activities or something that’s more relaxing (a.k.a. a good selection of lounge chairs, a beach and a cocktail, here are 11 expert tips on how to pick a honeymoon destination.

1. Narrow down your options.

Once you’ve talked about the big-picture honeymoon concepts, make a list of your top destination sites and have your sweetheart do the same. Then pick one from each list and research those in more detail. “It’s much easier to compare prices and amenities when you’re only looking at a few choices,” says Rizzo. “And there’s nothing worse than information overload and analysis paralysis.” Give yourself a cutoff date for when you’d like to finalize your honeymoon destination so you can move your focus to the next aspects of planning.

2. Set your budget and only consider destinations and trips that fit within that budget.

Don’t stress yourself out by planning something that isn’t within your means. It’s always better to over budget and end up under budget than vice versa — especially when the goal is to start your life together, which involves a laundry list of future expenses like purchasing your first home! Be realistic about what you want to spend and what experiences you are looking to share, and allow ample funds for those experiences. A great solution is to set up a honeymoon registry in advance that allows guests to help with some of your travel costs or enhance your trip with special services and experiences.

3. Factor in out-of-pocket costs.

Perhaps you’re getting a good deal on airfare and hotel, but it’s important to double check how much local restaurants, activities, and even transportation will cost you. Sometimes those costs can add up and be way more than you expected. As mentioned above, you can set up a honeymoon fund to offset some of these costs. You can also look for all-inclusive resorts, where all your food, drinks, and even activities are included in your stay.

4. Think about the weather.

Look up past weather trends for the month you are planning on honeymooning. If basking in the sun is your thing, try to avoid going during that location’s rainy season or heavy winter. On the other hand, if you don’t mind a shower here and there, traveling in the off-season can save you money. Either way, definitely factor in the weather report for your potential honeymoon destinations.

5. Make sure you can get enough time off to accommodate the trip you want to plan.

If you’re going somewhere far or even planning a road trip, be sure you can take off a longer amount of time instead of rushing a trip that should be a week or two. Chances are good that you’ll get the approval (if ever there was a good reason, your honeymoon is it!), but don’t bank on it. Speak candidly with your boss and get the go-ahead for your time off before you get your heart set on it (check out these tips on how to ask for time off for your honeymoon).

6. Think about what scenery you’d most like to see.

You’ll also want to look at the geography and decide on what type of scenery you want most. Are you hoping for some place tropical? Mountainous? Historic? These factors will help you narrow down the destination itself.

7. Keep current on what’s happening in the world.

Research the location you have your heart set on romancing in to make sure you are aware of any problems or health risks. Find out what the current health and political climates are like. especially if you’re planning travel to a third-world country.

8. Consider the type of vibe you want.

Factor in the type of vibe you’re looking for. Fast-paced and action-packed? Relaxing and languid? Talk it over, and then look into locations that line up with your desired vibe. Make the decision together (it won’t be your last!).

9. Read travel blogs to learn more about what potential locations will offer.

Considering a destination but not quite sure what all you can do there? Look for travel blogs online. You’ll find travel itineraries and trip plans on travel blogs to help take the hassle out of figuring out how to pack in all the things you want to do into one trip. “Most itineraries will even share the restaurants they ate at and hotels they stayed at, which will help save you time reading reviews on the best local spots,” says Liz Ise Dallas-based wedding planner.

10. Decide how many destinations you want to visit.

Would you rather spend your entire time in one location soaking up the culture, or would you prefer to keep moving and get in as many sights and cities as you can? It’s definitely something to talk over with your travel partner. If island-hopping or a multi-country backpacking tour of Europe sounds like your thing (and it fits within your budget and vacation time), plan a multi-destination honeymoon.

11. Look for hidden gems.

Sure, your best friend’s Fiji honeymoon seemed magical and your cousin’s honeymoon to Rome was bucket list-worthy, but the world’s a big place. Think outside the box and make sure to consider choices that aren’t as obvious. Do your research — you never know what hidden gems you might discover!

See More:

Honeymoon Planning: 17 Tips to Create the Trip of a Lifetime

The 13 Best Honeymoon-Planning Websites and Apps

6 Reasons to Do a Honeymoon Fund Instead of a Wedding Registry

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Mother of the Groom Etiquette: How Involved Should the Mother of the Groom Be?

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Figuring out the roles of your loved ones early on in wedding planning makes the entire process run much more smoothly. That way, you know who is responsible for what, when each person has the final say, and exactly when you do (and don’t) want someone’s input. While you might know exactly what you want your fiancé to take care of and where your mom’s strengths lie, what is the role of the mother of the groom in all this?

Traditionally, the role of the groom’s mother is a little more limited than that of the mother of the bride. When it comes to involvement in the planning of the wedding, that’s usually at the discretion of the couple. There’s no expectation that the mother of the groom should be more involved, and she shouldn’t take on any additional responsibilities unless the couple asks her to.

So if you’re wondering what the correct mother-of-the-groom etiquette is and involved the mother of the groom should be, here are a couple of ways she can help take some stress off your shoulders.

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If she’s got great taste, invite her to come to a meeting with your caterer or florist. While you may decide to keep dress shopping a strictly mother-daughter event, inviting your future mother-in-law to your fitting is a fun moment to share, and it means you’ll have one more person who knows how to work your bustle! You can even have her over to help you coordinate and design how your centerpieces will look or how your table settings should be put together.

If you relationship with the mother of the groom is a bit rocky or you find that she’s trying to completely take over all the wedding planning, it’s key to set boundaries from the start. Let her know the two to three things she can take off your to-do list and let her know that you’ll be in touch if there are more things you’d like her to help you plan. Put your foot down immediately if you notice she’s ordering invitations, booking the caterer, and finding a DJ without asking you first.

Guest List

There might be some back and forth conversations with the mother of the groom when it comes to seeing how many people from their side of the family they want on your wedding guest list. After you’ve sorted through who will make the final cut and you’ve gotten your guest list down to a reasonable number, the mother of the groom can assist you with collecting names addresses for any family members and friends who will be invited to the wedding (and assisting with collecting RSVPs!). As the wedding gets closer, the mother of the groom can also help with seating arrangements.

Planning the Ceremony

Taking the groom’s religion or family traditions into account, you might want to consult with his mother to see if there are any special ceremony readings, rituals or customs that you should consider including in the ceremony. If there’s a poem that’s been read or a tradition that has been passed down and used at weddings in their family for many years, the mother of the groom can give you insight on those practices.

Rehearsal Dinner

Depending on how you’ve delegated the wedding planning decisions and costs, the mother of the groom may offer to host the rehearsal dinner. Just because she’s offered to plan and pay for the rehearsal dinner doesn’t mean you have to be hush hush about the kind of party you want to have. Be sure to help with the planning, the suggestions and recommendations, and also with how to keep the budget down, since the mother of the groom might be so excited to host this event that the planning goes a little overboard.

Rounding Up Guests

When it comes to the wedding day, one of the major responsibilities the mother of the groom can take on is making sure that the people at the wedding she knows (family and friends) are taking their seats at the ceremony on time, all set with transportation to and from the venue, and making sure they just don’t get lost, especially if there are multiple venues for the wedding day. After the ceremony, when it comes time for group photos, she can be a big help making sure that the groom’s side of the family is waiting nearby to pop in and out of family photos.

See more: 6 Conversations You Must Have with the Mother of the Groom Before the Wedding

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After she takes over the dance floor during the mother and groom dance, be sure to remind her that the main thing she can do is spend the rest of the evening having fun. Turn to your bridal party for last-minute help with tasks and pop-up problems. Let your new mother-in-law dive into the celebration and enjoy in the excitement of having you as a part of the family.

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10 Funny Tweets That Sum Up Sex After You're Married

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It’s true that marriage has the power to shake things up in your relationship. Some things will inevitably stay the same, like your go-to date night spots, your inside jokes, and your Sunday morning rituals. But somethings will change, like perhaps your sex life. Marriage brings your relationship and your grown-up status to the next level and things like bills, work, kids and other responsibilities might put a damper on the adventurous sex life you’ve had for years.

The good news is, you’re not alone; sometimes, it’s even something that you and your spouse can laugh over. Check out the 10 tweets below that show off the reality of sex after marriage.

1. Make Plans to Do It

Remember how hot and steamy sex was when you and your partner first started dating? It might have even seemed like stress, bills, and exhaustion couldn’t keep your bodies off each other. But when marriage comes into the picture, scheduling when to have sex might be as headache-inducing as going to the DMV.

2. Your Mind Goes to Some Weird Places

If you really want to ruin the mood when you and your S.O. are finally in the bedroom together after a long vacation from having sex, the last thing you or your partner should do is think about mundane and everyday things, like grocery shopping or having to pay taxes.

3. Your List of Needs Changes

You’ll start to notice that not only do your bedroom needs change once you’re married but also how you express them to your partner changes too. Yes, you’ll be more direct at letting them know what you need, but you also might find yourself feeling less patient with them too.

4. People Want to know When the Baby Will Be Here

An interesting thing that happens to your sex life once you’re married is that every single person wants to know about it. They aren’t looking to hear the raunchy details; rather, they want to know if you are trying to have a baby and how hard you are trying to make that happen.

5. It Becomes Just Like Going to the Gym

If you start to become the married couple that does everything and anything together but have sex, you might forget how much fun you could have and do have until you finally do it again.

6. Lingerie is Only For Days You Haven’t Done the Laundry

Remember all that lingerie you invested in when you first started dating your partner? Chances are it’s stuffed in the pack of your drawer only to be pulled out and worn on the days when you realize you haven’t done laundry in a really long time and have no other undergarments to wear.

7. Your Positions Will Change

You can start to forget all of the Kama Sutra positions that you studied in books; the only position you’ll want your partner to be in when you two are in bed is one that keeps them from snoring.

8. Pillow Talk Doesn’t Sound the Same

A lot of what changes when you’re married is your bedtime routine. If you used to get it on right before dreamtime, you might find that your routine has now changed. Now, you’re finding yourself recapping the day and letting it all out for your partner to hear, grasp, and even smell.

9. What Turns You On Really Changes

The sight of their body in the past might have been an instant turn on. But now, small, weird things are enough to get you in the mood or even get you feeling those first-date butterflies all over again.

See more: 7 Expert Sex Tips for Newlyweds

10. What You Do in Bed Changes

When you’re not sleeping in your bed, you and your partner might be spending quality time on it together, doing things that you wouldn’t have normally done when the relationship first flourished.

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How to Make Small Talk With Almost Anyone At A Wedding

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Each wedding you go to will likely be much different than the last, from cocktails to food to the music. One thing that’s guaranteed to happen at any wedding you attend, whether it’s down the street or five states away: you’ll have to make small talk. Whether you’re stuck talking to an old coworker during cocktail hour, sitting at table number 10 with strangers you’ve never met before in your life, or standing in line at the bar behind the bride’s aunt, here are five tips to help you be the life of the party with your small talk conversation.

1. Bring Up Current Events

Before you head to the wedding, read up on current events that you can talk about when you need a silence filler. Pick topics that aren’t controversial (which means politics or religion should be left out) and instead, go for topics that people will have a friendly opinion on (sports, movies, or celebrities). That way, when you find yourself fishing for things to say, you can bring up something you read online or saw on a morning news show that day.

2. Ask a lot of Questions

Your go-to conversation move should be asking a lot of questions. Act less like you’re interrogating them and more like you’re a podcast host, genuinely curious to find out more about them and their interests. The best way to think up questions to ask is to make sure you are actively listening when they are speaking.

3. Talk About Your Environment

When you find yourself face-to-face with someone and you don’t know what to say or you’ve run out of questions and current events to bring up, comment about the environment that you’re in. What is going on around you that you can pull into conversation to get them talking? Perhaps it’s the weather, the decorations, the food, or even the music.

4. Bring Up What You Know to Be True

If you’re at a smaller wedding event or reception, try to study up on the people there that you know will be spending time around you. If you know you’re going to be sitting at a table with a group of people that the bride went to college with, perhaps you do some research about the bride’s college so that you can bring up things the crowd will be able to comment on and share their opinions on throughout the night.

See more: 30 Wedding Guest Mistakes to Avoid

5. Ask for Advice

One more simple way to keep people talking is to ask for help. Think of some situations or problems you’d like advice on and ask the person you’re talking to. Asking for help makes people feel worthy and involved. It also helps the time pass because they can provide you with their opinion and similar things that happened to them and by the time you know it, the ceremony will begin, the bar will open, and the dance floor will commence, and you can politely excuse yourself from the conversation.

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The Worst Things People Have Said to Engaged Couples, Newlyweds, and Those Married for Years

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The people in your life are the ones you rely on to shower you with love and support. But your friends and family members are human, and sometimes, they can’t stop themselves from saying things that make your eyes bulge with disbelief. You might be focused on seeing your future spouse at the end of the aisle, basking in the honeymoon phase, or even working through the ups and downs of marriage, when—bam!—someone in your life tosses you a snide remark or has totally clueless comment. These brides-to-be, newlyweds, and married women share the one thing that made them stop in their tracks. Here’s hoping you can avoid them!

“‘I can’t believe you’re okay with having a baby bump on your wedding day!’ I was pregnant at our wedding and couldn’t believe how many people had something to say about it as our wedding day approached. Clearly there was nothing I could do about it, and putting the wedding off was not an option.” —Erika

“My ring was a little too big, so I took it to the jeweler to have it resized. He told me it was obnoxious!” —Danielle

“My dad told me I’d been disrespectful for not inviting my preteen stepsister to my adults-only bridal shower—you know, the one that I hadn’t planned; I was just the guest of honor!—because my friend brought her (infant and nursing) baby with her when she flew in from out of town to attend.” —Stephanie

“We were together for years before getting engaged. The worst were people’s ‘well-meaning’ offhanded comments, like ‘Wow, finally! I was worried this would never happen!’ Um, I’m sorry my life didn’t line up with your expected timeline of how I should live. (NOT SORRY!)” —Maria

“The night of our wedding, my uncle stopped me to congratulate us…and then asked when we were having our first baby. He proceeded to invite himself to the baby shower, even after I told him we weren’t planning on having kids for a few years.” —Susan

“When we were taking family photos, my photographer missed a few shots on the list I’d given her, so my dad had to ask for photos of my husband and me with him, his mother, and his siblings. He accused me of leaving those pictures out on purpose and only caring about my mom’s extended family!” — Jackie

“The most shocking comment I got was from none other than the groom’s father—the morning after our wedding! He looked at me and said, ‘You were really willing to date a man who was divorced and who already has kids?’ He was more clueless than anything else and couldn’t understand why a single girl would want that baggage.” — Allison

“Six years after I got married, I ran into an old friend from college who said to me, ‘I can’t believe you’re not divorced yet.’ I had to explain to her that just because I wasn’t a relationship gal in college doesn’t mean that many years later I haven’t changed.” — Sharon

“My husband and I were having some issues with communication and trust. I confided in a few friends about the tough time we were having and one of them said, ‘I can’t wait to plan wedding number two for you!’ It wasn’t the love advice I wanted when I was venting to her.” — Debbie

“I ran into my old high-school sweetheart at the supermarket when I was engaged. I hadn’t seen him in 16 years! He looked at my ring and said, ‘Clearly you settled.’ He was a big-time finance guy and the guy I was marrying was a construction worker. That didn’t bother me. It clearly bothered him.” — Izzy

“My maid-of-honor got really drunk like 12 years after my wedding and told me that she hated the dress I made her buy and wear. She hated it so much she cut it up into a bunch of pieces before throwing it out, thought about mailing those pieces of fabric to me.” — Renatta

“The meanest thing anyone has ever said to me came from my mother-in-law. Before I went to walk down the aisle, she looked me in the eyes and said, ‘I wish this day wasn’t happening. But it is. But it is.’ Then she turned, walked down the aisle, and put on a fake smile. Life has been awkward around her ever since.” — Josie

“My husband and I went to couple’s therapy to work some stuff out and after the first session, the therapist said, ‘I think you shouldn’t have gotten married when you did. You should have dated for another few years because you two are a rough match.’ It was a major shock!” — Michelle

“I told my coworker that I had something very important to tell her. Then I showed her my pregnant belly and she said, ‘Pregnant? I thought you were going to tell me you were getting a divorce!’ She knew that my husband and I were arguing lately but like it was still a big conclusion to jump to that we were going to call it quits.” — Ashley

“The person didn’t say it to my face, but I overheard a friend of mine tell another friend that she should literally do the opposite of everything I did for my wedding. She told the other person that my wedding was extra tacky.” — Cheyanne

“A friend of a friend took a look at my engagement ring, right after I got it, and said she saw the same one at a discount store and swore the diamonds on mine were fake. I was offended and went to a jeweler to confirm the diamonds were real and they were.” — Gaby

“I posted on Facebook after I got engaged and someone I barely knew from high-school wrote: LOL that’s funny. Thought you’d be single forever.” — Ruth

“I married a man 18 years younger than me. People say the darndest things to me all the time. Once, my husband introduced me to a friend of his and the friend blurted out, ‘That’s your wife? I thought it was your mother!’ — Laura

“My hubby and I have been married for 23 years. One time, at a restaurant, a stranger came up to us and said that we looked like we were having a miserable time together at dinner. We replied, ‘Nope! That’s just called marriage!’ — Colleen

“After I got married, a distant relative told me he wasn’t giving us a wedding gift because he questioned if we’d make it a year.” — Beth

“One of my closest friends once told me she was in love with my husband and confessed that she almost tried to break us up before we got married. I was totally freaked out and upset. I stopped talking to her and I never told my husband about it.” — Quinn

“My boss told me that he was happy I was engaged but that If I was planning on having kids soon I should think twice because it would compromise my career and job at that company. I quit three months later.” — Tracy

“My wife and I have been married for two years. People in our town aren’t so accepting of gay marriage so we hear a lot of noise when we’re out together. One guy once said to us that we’re a disgrace and god will punish us if we continue this sin. We laughed, kissed, and went on about our day.” — Allison

“My mom offered me $20,000 not to marry my husband. She never liked him and even after I turned down the cash and have been married to him for five years, she still thinks I made the wrong choice.” — Shannon

“I saw that some random girl wrote on my husbands Instagram picture of him and our family, ‘Ew. That’s your wife? You could have done better.’” — Rochelle

“Before I married my husband, his mother printed out a document and told me that I have to sign a prenup because she’s not convinced I’m marrying him for any reason but his money. I was so pissed and upset. I didn’t sign it and 16 years later, we are still married and I am still proving her wrong.” — Betsy

“My dad told me that I was a horrible person because I wouldn’t let him walk me down the aisle. He was absent from my life for the last 18 years and I only see him once a year now. He’s the horrible person.” — Veronica

See more: Brides Reveal the WORST Marriage Advice They Were Ever Given

“My maid-of-honor and I got into a huge fight during my wedding planning time. After my wedding was over, she sent me an invoice for $1,500 asking me to pay her back for all the money she spent on my wedding. I never spoke to her after that. I didn’t pay it either.” — Marissa

“A second-cousin told my husband that I was crazy and he should back out from marrying me. This was a week before our wedding. My second-cousin and I fought a lot growing up. I confronted her about that and she denied the whole thing. Ten years later and I still refuse to speak to her.” — Tara

“I almost called my entire wedding off because my dad told me that the man I was marrying was a disgrace because he didn’t ask my dad for permission to marry me. My dad caused such a ruckus that it almost ended my relationship.” — Sherry

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Science Confirms You and Your BFF Share Brain Waves

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You don’t need scientific research to confirm you and your best friend practically share a brain—the evidence is in your relationship. From the way you banter back and forth Gilmore Girls-style without missing a beat (or catching a breath) to your shared obsession over Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson’s whirlwind relationship, there’s no one else you’d rather have by your side on your wedding day. (Besides your future spouse, of course!)

But science actually does offer some evidence that the similarities you share with your BFF go way beyond your taste in celebrity crushes. In a study published in Nature Communications earlier this year by researchers at Dartmouth College, close friends were found to have similar patterns of brain activity while viewing video clips.

First, the study’s authors mapped the relationships between 279 graduate students at an unnamed college by having them complete an online survey. A “friend” was considered anyone they spent a lot of time with when they didn’t have to, such as going out for drinks or watching movies together. People who mutually named one another were considered to have the strongest ties.

From there, 42 of the students agreed to have their brains scanned in a functional MRI while they watched 14 different video clips featuring an array of subject matter, including a gay wedding celebration, a documentary about caring for baby sloths and footage from “America’s Funniest Home Videos.” As the study’s authors write, measuring brain activity this way—they described it as akin to watching TV while someone else surfed channels—was “an unobtrusive window into individuals’ unconstrained thought processes as they unfold.”

What they found when they compared the participants’ brain scans wasn’t surprising—at least, not if you and your bestie are the kind of dynamic duo who complete each other’s sentences and binge-watch the same shows on Netflix. Researchers were able to pair the 42 students up in 861 different ways, which included friend pairs and non-friend pairs; the scans of friend pairs showed their brain responses to be more alike than the scans of non-friend pairs. Those results were consistent even when the researchers factored in variables such as age, gender, nationality, and ethnicity.

As the study’s authors write, their results suggest that friends are exceptionally similar to one another in terms of how they perceive, interpret, and react to the world around them. They also show that “it is possible to predict whether or not two individuals are friends…based only on the similarity of temporal patterns in their neural responses during free viewing of complex, real-world scenes.”

They also note, however, that they don’t know if “we become friends with people who respond to the environment similarly, or [if] we come to respond to the world similarly to our friends.”

While that question remains to be answered, the study appears to offer more credence to the whole idea of having “chemistry” with someone. As Thalia Wheatley, an associate professor of psychological and brain sciences at Dartmouth and one of the study’s authors, told Science Daily: “We are a social species and live our lives connected to everybody else.”

See more: 7 Ways to Keep Your Friends Close, From Your Engagement to Your Wedding—and Beyond

Of course, the best connections are with people who understand why we have a Google alert set up for Ariana and Pete news. Natch.

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30 Things Your Son-in-Law Wants to Tell You

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Gaining a son-in-law can be one of the best parts about watching your child fall in love and commit spending their lives with another human being. You might be eager to have a strong relationship with their partner, including them in family vacations and traditions, and finding common hobbies that the two of you can bond over.

However, some parents might feel a little wary about getting close to your new son-in-law, whether that’s because of things that have happened in the past or because you don’t really like who they are.

Either way, your son-in-law has things they’d like you to know, but are probably a bit scared to say to you. Read on to find out the 30 things that your son-in-law wants to tell you.

See more: 30 Things Your Daughter-in-Law Wants to Tell You

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8 Shocking Things People Said in Their Vows

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One of the most memorable parts of any wedding is when the couple stands front and center to exchange vows. It’s customary to share a beautiful list of the things you want to promise your partner before saying “I d”o and heading into the reception.

But not all vows are created equal, especially when a couple decides to write their own. Here’s a list of eight very shocking things that people said in their vows (that they regret till this day).

Mentions of an Ex

“I thought it would be funny to write my vows as if I was promising not to do some of the things I did in past relationships. I talked about an ex-girlfriend and all the things I did wrong in that relationship and how I vow to never do those things again. I guess I went into a bit too much detail. My wife didn’t appreciate it and still, six years later, is pissed off that I did that. I was just trying to be funny.” – Ben H., 38

The Topic of Sex

“I rambled off a list of things I vowed I’d do more of, like the dishes, laundry, filling up the gas tank on our cars with gas, and oh yeah, I mentioned oral sex, because I thought people would laugh. Well, they didn’t. They were mortified and so was my bride. She forgave me, after five shots of vodka at the open bar after.” – Henry P., 35

Instructions for Death

“Vows are supposed to be jolly and happy. Mine took a dark turn. I had a sentence in there about how if I died first, I wanted my husband to move on fast. I even told him I’d leave a few dollars behind for him to join a dating site. His eyes look like they were going to pop out of his eye socket. He wasn’t pleased.” – Marissa H., 35

The Potential of Divorce

“I guess I knew that it would be weird to talk about divorce in our vows but I also just wanted to bring up the fact that it could eventually happen. It was also my second marriage. So I said something like, I vow to love you up until you hire a high-powered divorce attorney to try to take everything I have. Some people at the ceremony actually laughed.” – Chris W., 45

An Unresolved Argument

“Days before the wedding, my wife and I were fighting about something so stupid and trivial. But it was a lingering fight between us. So instead of reading vows, I grabbed the microphone and said to her, in front of everyone, I’ll only marry you if we resolve our stupid little fight right here and now. She nervously laughed, squeezed my hand, and I somehow survived that bad decision with her by my side.” – Dover K., 34

Secret Financial Debt

“I said I promise to you love you through all the cliché things, if you promise to love my messy hair, my vintage style, and oh yeah, my credit card debt. He didn’t know I had any of that so it was a sneak attack. I don’t recommend doing that kind of strategy to anyone else who is wondering how to admit they have debt to their partner.” – Claire W., 28

The Ending of a Job

“I causally mentioned I lost my job in my vows. I remember looking at my wife’s face and seeing that she was mostly confused and thinking I was joking. She let it go but during our first dance she asked if I had gotten fired and I said yes and I remember she elbowed me in the stomach for bringing it up the way I did.” – Tom W., 35

See more: 7 Tips for Writing Totally Tear-Jerking Vows

That Having Cold Feet is Real

“I started my vows off saying I promised to always be honest with her and that before I came to the ceremony, I did have some cold feet and thought about becoming a runaway groom. After the ceremony, she asked me to never be honest like that in public ever again.” – Roy F., 29

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5 Tools to Make Your Wedding Guests' Lives Easier

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One of the biggest hurdles of wedding planning is creating your guest list. Once you’ve nailed down who you want to attend your wedding and have sent out save-the-dates, your guests will start their journey of planning their travel to your wedding, what gifts they want to get you, and if you need them to help out.

Once you have that guest list finalized, you’ll find yourself managing RSVPs, incoming questions, and even some of the headaches your guests face as they get things in order to attend your wedding. Check out our list below of five tools that will make your guests’ lives a whole lot easier in preparation for your wedding.

1. A Wedding Website

One of the first things you should do after you’ve nailed down your wedding details (such as your wedding date and location) is create a wedding website. Having a place for your guests to turn to for ongoing wedding information will help them stay in the loop on hotels, your registry, and timing for the pre-wedding events. You can customize this website to showcase your wedding details, share your love story, and even highlight who the members of your wedding party are.

2. An Easy Way for Them to RSVP

A big headache that creeps up on a lot of couples before their wedding is trying to get their guests to remember to RSVP. You might have a lot of guests who rip open your wedding invitation with such excitement and then completely forget to mail back their RSVP card. Use an app or an online system, like RSVPIFY, so that your guests can submit their response in seconds without having to worry about filling out a card and placing it in their mailbox. You can even email a link to the app or website you pick so they can be reminded that their RSVP is late.

3. A Portable Itinerary for the Day

You’ll start to notice that as your wedding day gets closer, your guests will come to you with questions about the timing of the day, local activities they can partake in during downtime, and even what time the ceremony starts. To avoid getting a ton of text messages and phone calls, create a portable itinerary that you can send to guests or use a program like Ceremony App to have a timeline and schedule available for guests to turn to and check-in throughout your wedding adventure.

4. A Fast Way for Them to Share Photos

Practically all of your guests will be equipped with a cell phone handy and will be ready and willing to snap photos throughout the event. To encourage them to take more photos and have them sent to you in an organized way, consider opting in to a photo sharing program, whether it’s a shared Google Drive or a program like Wed Pics. That way, you can wake up the morning after your wedding with thousands of good photos to look through.

See more: The 8 Things Guests Secretly Wish You’d Do at Your Wedding

5. An Accessible Registry

Be sure to make it easy for guests to find out what kinds of gifts you’re looking for so that they can buy them for you with a simple click of a button. Organize your wedding registry through the online portal of the stores you are registering with or set up an easy to view gift list on Amazon. It’s also important to display your registry on your wedding website so that your guests don’t have to snoop around to see exactly where you are registered.

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What to Do If a Wedding Vendor Doesn't Show Up

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One of the biggest joys of wedding planning is watching the items on your to-do list get checked off. As your wedding approaches, you’ll feel an overwhelming moment of happiness looking back at all of your hard work, your coordination, and your decision-making skills.

When your wedding day finally arrives, even if you’ve done your best to make sure everything goes as planned, you have to be prepared for something to go wrong. Whether it’s the wrong color flowers or a bridesmaid dress that’s so wrinkled even the hottest steamer can’t fix it, it’s always best to have a back-up plan.

One thing that could potentially happen is that one of your wedding vendors doesn’t arrive. Read on to find out our five best tips for handling the very stressful moment when you realize your wedding vendor never showed up.

Contact the Company Immediately

The moment you notice that a wedding vendor hasn’t arrived or didn’t drop something off, contact the company immediately. Pick up the phone and call every single phone number you can find for that company and send an email to your contact. Before the wedding, ask the company for a day-of emergency contact number so that you have a direct person to speak with and not just a voicemail.

Do a Little Social Media Stalking

If you’re having trouble getting through to your direct contact, take to social media to try to find someone to reach. Send them messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. If you have the full name of your representative, you can go as far as finding their personal social media channels and sending messages to them directly to find out what’s going on.

Find a Last Minute Replacement

When you start to see that your wedding vendor has gone MIA and you can’t seem to reach them no matter how hard you try, it might be time to find a replacement. Give yourself an hour of trying to locate the vendor before declaring that they won’t show up. Consider creating an “in case this vendor doesn’t show” back-up plan before the wedding so you’ll have something to turn to.

Assign a Team of People to Help

Try hard to keep your stress levels down on the wedding day, even if one of your vendors didn’t show up when they were supposed to. In order to help you stay calm, enlist the help of a team of people you can trust at your wedding. Perhaps they are members of your bridal party or maybe they are just family members who work well under a lot of stress. Ask them to help you try to reach the vendor or think of a good back-up plan.

See more: How to Get Along With a Disappointing Wedding Vendor

Figure Out How to Keep Moving Forward with the Wedding

One of the hardest parts of having a vendor mishap is figuring out a way to continue on with the day, even if a part of it (like your cake or flowers) are missing. Remember, your wedding is a celebration that won’t always go as planned. Try hard to keep that in mind and find a way to tell yourself that no matter what, the show must go on.

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How to Treat the Single Bridesmaid(s) in Your Wedding Party

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Your wedding celebration is one of the top moments in your life when you can truly spend quality time with your best friends. Having a bridal party means that you have excuses to see your BFFs, whether it’s to go dress shopping, take a “one last fling before the ring” vacation, or even just to meet them for coffee and vent about all things wedding planning.

If one or more of your bridesmaids are single, you might have the urge to try and help her out during the wedding adventure, whether by playing matchmaker or setting up a single’s table at the reception. But before you start making plans, take a minute to think about how she might feel.

Here are five ways to treat your single bridesmaid so that they don’t feel singled out in your bridal party.

1. Ask What’s She Looking For

Before trying to set your single bridesmaid up with someone at your wedding, first casually ask her if she even wants your help. Perhaps your single bridesmaid is focusing on herself or taking a break from dating and not interested in being set up or even having you and your fiancé work some magic to introduce her to someone at the wedding. If she says she wants to the focus to be off of her relationship status, respect that, even if it’s tempting not to.

2. Give Her a Good Seat

When you’re planning your wedding seating arrangements, take note of where you can have your single bridesmaid sit. You might want to put her at a single’s table with people she doesn’t know to try and create a spark with another single. But instead of isolating her, place her at a table with people she knows and will have a fun night with, even if they have plus ones.

3. Don’t Make This About Her Love Life

Remember that it’s your wedding and the only love you should be focusing on is the love between you and your partner. You might want to make your wedding feel like an in-person dating app experience for your single friends and bridesmaids but instead of using the dance floor as a chance to casually introduce two single friends, use it as a time to focus on having fun and enjoying the people around you.

4. Try Not to Play Matchmaker

Think back to the time when you were single—one of the most annoying things people probably tried to do to you was play matchmaker. Instead of eyeballing the guest list looking for a single match for your single bridesmaid, ask first if she’s interested in having you take on that role, and if she declines, leave your matchmaking hat on the rack.

See more: How to Make Your Single Wedding Guests Feel Included

5. Keep it Fair

Treat all of your bridesmaids equally, even if some have a plus one or some are flying solo to your wedding. If you think it’s a good idea to give your single bridesmaid more wedding day responsibilities because you feel they will have more time to help you on the big day (since they aren’t bringing anyone with them), talk to them first before assuming that. Ask them if they would be willing to take on some more tasks for the wedding but also spread out your tasks as even as possible between your bridal party so resentment between your friends doesn’t start to happen.

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What to Do If a Wedding Crasher Comes to Your Wedding

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A lot of times, we envision our wedding will look and feel like something straight out of our favorite romantic comedy movie. The cascading flowers and the memorable moments between you and the person you’re committing to living your life with will feel like they were stolen right out of a scene from the big screen. One wedding movie scenario that you might be crossing your fingers doesn’t happen is having a wedding crasher pop into your reception, steal some booze, and cause a scene on the dance floor. While it went off (mostly without a hitch?) in Wedding Crashers, it might not go over so well in real life.

Here are five ways to deal with wedding crashers without ruining your wedding experience.

Assign Someone to Handle It First

Instead of taking the reins yourself after spotting a wedding crasher at your wedding, ask someone else to handle the situation. Let them know there’s a person at your reception who wasn’t invited and that you’d like them to speak to that person and ask them to promptly leave. Pass the duties off to someone you trust so that this doesn’t get in the way of you enjoying your time at the wedding.

Have the Conversation with Them Yourself

If you want to have the conversation with that wedding crasher yourself, go ahead and handle it, but don’t do it alone. Bring someone else with you so that after you question them and ask them to leave, another person can deal with making sure that happens. Keep the drama at your wedding to a minimum, which means remove yourself from situations that can be tense and delegate someone else to dealing with them on your behalf.

Look for Security

Before the wedding begins, ask the venue who you should contact if any security issues come up. That way, if there’s a problem with a guest or if you have a wedding crasher, you have a point of contact for someone who can come and take care of the situation for you so that you don’t have to get directly involved.

Figure Out if You Should Call Authorities

If there’s no security present at the wedding and you notice that the wedding crasher refuses to leave, you might want to call authorities. If this is case, try to assign a team of people to handle this situation as discreetly as possible so that other guests don’t become alarmed when the police show up.

See more: 7 Ways to Make Your Wedding Totally Drama-Free

Keep Someone on Watch Duty

Once you have successfully had the wedding crasher leave, assign someone at the wedding to keep an eye out to make sure that they don’t suddenly come back or sneak back and hang out casually again at the open bar. That way, you have someone on duty to deal with the situation so that you don’t need to keep looking over your shoulder wondering if the wedding crasher came back to your wedding or not.

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30 Things Your Daughter-in-Law Wants to Tell You

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Falling in love and saying a big giant “yes!” to the idea of spending your life with someone else means that you’ll also be saying yes to their friends and family members. Hopefully they are people you want to build solid relationships with as well, but it’s not always so easy. You might notice that getting along with some of your partner’s loved ones isn’t such a simple task.

One relationship that might be a bit hard to figure out is the relationship you have with your fiancé’s mother. Becoming a daughter-in-law might make you feel like you’ve just earned yourself a second mother—someone who is there to support and love you. But at times, it may feel like she says too much and tries to do too much and you become annoyed, angry, and unsure of how to handle the situation.

If you have a daughter-in-law, or about to get one in the coming months, it’s best to know that there are some things she wants to tell you but is unsure of how to say.

Read on to find out the 30 things your daughter-in-law wants you to know, but might be too scared to say.

See more: How to Deal with a Difficult Mother-in-Law

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How to Handle People Asking Why They Weren’t Invited to Your Wedding

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When it comes time to finalizing your wedding guest list and sending out save-the-dates or invitations, you’ll suddenly feel a giant weight lifted off your shoulders. Figuring out who to invite to your big day can cause a stress headache that takes a long time to kick. Whether you’re looking to keep your wedding under three digits or you just don’t want to invite certain people for personal reasons, coming to terms with who will be on the guest list and who will be left off will be a decision that will feel good to finalize.

But once people start to find out who is invited to your wedding and who has been taken off the list, you might be faced with people calling, texting, emailing, or asking you in real life—why they weren’t invited to your big day? Here are four ways to handle responding to those who weren’t asked to come celebrate your wedding with you.

1. Blame it on Size

If you decided to keep your wedding small, you can use that as the reason to tell people who might ask why they weren’t sent an invitation. Let those people know that they do mean a lot to you and you would love to celebrate this milestone in your life with them, just in a different way. Explain that inviting them to your wedding was just something you couldn’t do because of how small you decided to make it. Some people might not realize that your wedding is a small affair, so be honest about that if it’s the case and those who weren’t invited will start to feel not as left out.

2. Use Distance as a Reason

If you’ve decided to host your wedding in a far away city, let those guests know that you chose to do a destination wedding and decided to keep the guest list small. Because travel was an added factor placed on guests, let them know that you decided to invite fewer people so that you could have the wedding of your dreams in a certain location that you have always loved.

3. Let Them Know the Truth

If your wedding is neither small or at a far away location and you just decided you didn’t want that person at your wedding, you can explain to them the true reason why they didn’t get invited. Feel free to open up about the reason why you decided not to add them to your wedding guest list. If it’s something that’s better said in person, arrange a time to meet up and chat. If it’s a person that you’re not very close with, perhaps ask a family member or friend who is close with them to relay the message.

See more: What to Do If You Don’t Want to Invite Your Parents to Your Wedding

4. Decide to Handle It Post-Wedding

If you find that you’re getting overwhelmed with people reaching to find out why they were invited to your wedding and you’re not in the mood to handle it or give them an answer, then don’t. You can briefly let them know that there are some unresolved issues that you have with them or reasons that you want to discuss with them—after your wedding. Only make amends with people beforehand that you want to be there on your big day. If a person is asking you why they weren’t invited and you have a good reason for why they weren’t, either let them know on the spot or tell them that you’ll reach out to chat about it when the wedding is over. Doing so will keep your wedding as drama-free as possible.

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4 Types of Wedding Venues That Will Entertain Your Guests (So You Don't Have To)

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Planning a wedding is enough work without having to take a few steps back and think about entertaining all your guests even during wedding-weekend downtime. Out-of-town guests might arrive a few days before your big day and be on the hunt for things to do around town. You might even have friends and family that make a vacation out of your wedding and look to you as their camp counselor and itinerary planner for the weekend.

To avoid having to put together scheduled activities for your guests or feel like you’re in charge of making sure they have fun all weekend long, here are four types of wedding venues to pick from that will leave you worry-free about whether or not your guests are having a good time.

An Activity Packed Resort

If you’re looking to go with more of a traditional wedding venue, select a property that not only has a beautiful ballroom for you to get married in, but has lots of activities around the resort that your guests can do again and again to relax, have fun, and feel like they are on vacation during your wedding weekend.

Lindsey Kurtz, director of catering sales at Omni Orlando Resort at ChampionsGate, says that at her property, they have a team of professionals on-site to make sure that every guest has a fantastic experience, that way it’s not just the couple’s job to entertain.

Kurtz says that the Omni Orlando Resort at ChampionsGate offers a golf resort and spa, a wave pool, a lazy river, cabanas, and is driving distance to Disney World, Sea World, and Universal.

A Theme Park

While at first it might seem like a very out-of-the-box wedding venue, a theme park or a local attraction can make for an exciting place to have your wedding, especially if guests are allowed access to the property before the wedding or after for no additional charge.

Stevi Bramich, from Mystic Aquarium in Connecticut, says that your guests have access to many of the aquarium’s exhibits, like the California sea lines, stingrays and jellies, and the opportunity to watch beluga whales swim during cocktail hour.

The Great Outdoors

One of the simplest ways to make sure your guests have a to-do list that will keep them occupied throughout your wedding weekend is to pick a place rooted in the great outdoors, where they can go for a bike ride, take a hike, or swim in an ocean or lake.

Brooke Spanjian, of the Inn at Weathersfield, says that guests can take a covered bridge tour, go on a brewery tour, berry pick at a local farm, kayak or snowmobile during the winter, all before or after the wedding happens.

See more: 8 Destination-Wedding Resorts With Activities Your Guests Will Love

An Historic Castle

Another alternative for a venue that will make you feel like part of the royal family and will keep your guests occupied exploring for days, is to get married at a castle.

Sydney Masters, from Kilkea Castle, a 12th century fortress and estate, says that guests can spend their downtime before the wedding takes place, going golfing, fishing, doing archery, going horseback riding, skeet shooting, or visiting a history Irish brewery.

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Crazy Wedding DJ Requests You Just Won’t Believe

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Weddings can truly be the party of a lifetime, especially when unique things happen that guests may have never seen anywhere else. But if you look at a wedding through the eyes of different wedding vendors, who are consistently at weddings almost every single weekend, the things they see can top just about any crazy story you’ve ever heard. One wedding vendor in particular—wedding DJs—often sit down with the couple before the wedding to talk through musical details, i.e. what will be their first dance song, if they will do dances with their parents, and what time speeches will be. But for some DJs, the conversations have taken quite a weird turns over the years.

Here are four of the craziest wedding DJ requests from brides and grooms that are so odd you just won’t believe them to be true.

An End of the Night Strip Tease

“At the end of the final meeting between myself, the bride, groom and her parents, the bride and groom said that there’s one last thing that we must discuss. It’s become a tradition that at every wedding the groom attends, that he performs a strip tease. Right down to his boxers. Taken aback, I ask if everyone is on-board with this, and everyone, including the bride’s parents are all good. And with that, I agree to do it.” – Michael Coombs, DJ at Michael Coombs Entertainment 

A Mother of the Bride Extreme Entrance

“We once had a Mother of the Bride insist on making an overly dramatic entrance for her reception welcome speech. It started with having us fill the space with copious amounts of fog and then for her to sneak up from behind the scenes and ‘suddenly appear’ in the clearing haze, all to the Phantom of the Opera theme song booming throughout the ballroom.” – Martin Ramirez, DJ for Historic Mankin Mansion Wedding Resort

A Full-On Performance

“Hands down, I worked the craziest, most non-traditional wedding ever in Brooklyn. The couple asked me to play the ‘Love Theme’ from Superman (groom) and ‘Jurassic Park Theme’ as they walked down the aisle. They also had a surprise flash mob, which was a choreographed dance to Backstreet Boy’s “Everybody” and throughout the night, there were five performances of comedy, music, and full-on puppetry by friends.” – Brent Fierro, a Brooklyn-Based DJ

See more: 50 Questions to Ask Wedding DJs and Bands

A Few Inappropriate Song Requests

“We once had a request for a Hip Hop song called ‘I Hate You Bit*h’ and one of the guests told us the name of the person he wanted it dedicated to (apparently she was there). I politely told him, ‘I’m sorry, I can’t do that. I can only play clean versions and though I have the clean version, I can’t make that dedication.’ I decided to avoid it all together and not play it at all.  We also have gotten a request from a bride, who wanted to hear ‘Pus*y Control’ by Prince. She and her significant other argued about us playing it, but since she was the bride, I had to play it. She danced and sang along the whole time.” – Jason Rubio, founder and co-owner of Austin’s Best DJs & Photo Booths

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7 Tweets That Sum Up the Drama of Being a Bridesmaid

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Being a bridesmaid will, at first, feel like a super exciting honor. Even if you’ve been a bridesmaid practically a dozen times, it will still be lovely to have someone in your life ask you to stand by their side on this momentous day.

At first, being a bridesmaid will feel like a ton of fun. You’ll daydream about what kind of dress you’ll get to wear and what cool style you’ll do your hair in. You might even spend time figuring out a fun wedding hashtag for the bride or researching the best places to vacation for a weekend getaway bachelorette party. But after some time, you’ll notice that your to-do list is pilling up and the amount of money you’re spending is starting to make a large hole in your checking account.

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to be a bridesmaid, check out these seven tweets that perfectly sum up the drama of being one of the members of the bride’s wedding squad.

1. Figuring Out How to Feel Good in a Bridesmaid Dress

One of the biggest headaches of being a bridesmaid comes in the form of having to wear a bridesmaid dress that seemingly looks good on nobody except the woman who modeled it on the brand’s website. When you’re faced with how to look good and feel confident in a dress style and color that you didn’t pick out, you’ll find yourself reaching for every fashion trick possible, including special undergarments.

2. Finding Yourself Unexpectedly Upset That You Weren’t Asked to Be the Maid of Honor

Being a bridesmaid can feel a bit awkward, especially if you thought the bride would have tapped you to be her MOH. While you might feel like just being another member of her wedding party isn’t as good of an honor, just look at all of the tasks someone else gets to do while you get to sit back, semi-relax, and enjoy more of the wedding.

3. Wondering Why You Have So Many Responsibilities

When you start to eyeball all of the tasks you have to accomplish as a bridesmaid, you might begin to wonder why you’re in charge of things like taking the bride to get her nails done before the wedding or being the point person for the wedding-day transportation. Being a bridesmaid will quickly start to feel like a full time job that hasn’t given you the raise or promotion you desperately deserve.

4. Realizing Being a Bridesmaid is So Much Money

If you’re finding yourself slowly becoming “always the bridesmaid” make sure that you set a firm budget for how much cash you will spend on each of the weddings you’ll be in. If not, you might not realize that you’re spending over $1,000 on items like clothing, travel, and gifts, that seem to drain your wallet faster than you ever imagined they would.

5. Going Bridezilla Even When You’re Not the Bride

There’s a lot of pressure on a person when they are a bridesmaid. You’ll be responsible to be there for the bride and be there on time. So if you’re traveling for the wedding or you find out that your dress won’t be altered in time, you might notice a bit of a bridezilla attitude come out to play.

6. Looking Like a Clown with Your Bridesmaid Style

If you find yourself as a bridesmaid for a bride that wants every single one of her bridesmaids to look alike, from their hair to their toenail polish, you might find yourself ending the wedding night with a ridiculous hairstyle or a face of makeup that makes you look more like a clown than a bridesmaid in a wedding.

See more: The Zero-Drama Guide to Bridesmaids

7. Realizing Being a Bridesmaid Keeps You On Your Toes

Being a bridesmaid is one of the most interesting, and at times, stressful jobs that you will ever take on as a friend for someone. When you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by the process, take a step back and realize that it will eventually come to an end at the wedding reception, where there will be an open bar, a plate of good food, and a whole lot of wedding cake to celebrate with.

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8 Big Marriage Proposal Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make

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Planning the perfect proposal can often feel as stressful as planning an entire wedding. A proposal is a moment that both you and your future fiancé have dreamt of for a very long time. Some people will hint about how they’d like to be proposed to and others will cross their fingers and pray to the universe that their partner can read their mind and do it just like they always imagined.

If you’re in the planning stages of the proposal and deciding what you should do, it’s also important to take mental note of all of the things you shouldn’t do when popping the question. Make sure you double check that you remember these 8 big marriage proposal mistakes so they don’t happen during your memorable engagement moment.

1. Skipping a Game Plan

If your proposal game plan is to just wing it, it might be time to reconsider. Popping the question should have some thought behind it. You may be setting yourself up for unwanted tears from your partner or a super awkward moment that sets both you and your partner up for feeling uncomfortable. Spend time thinking through how you want to propose, where you want to do it, and of course, what you will say.

2. Asking for too Much Advice

But be careful to not plan too much. It might be tempting to want to ask each and every friend and family member of your partner for their advice in how you should propose. You’ll be left with a handful of opinions and a massive headache trying to figure out what to do. Instead, ask a maximum of three people, and pick and chose parts from their responses when planning your proposal idea.

3. Overcomplicating the Whole Thing

Nerves fly high during any proposal and in order to make sure it goes smoothly, keep it relatively simple. If you’re incorporating a lot of different things or people (like a flash mob or a scavenger hunt) make sure that you practice beforehand so that it won’t be extra stressful making sure everything comes together in the moment.

4. Doing it the Very Wrong Way

Think about the kind of person your fiancé is when you’re planning the engagement. If they are naturally shy and introverted, you might not want to propose on a giant billboard or on the Jumbotron at a sports game. If they are the kind of person that likes romance and big gestures, you might not want to propose while you’re both in your pajamas sitting on the couch.

5. Forgetting the Ring

It might be obvious but in case it skips your mind, bring the engagement ring with you when you propose! Make sure you have it sized for your future fiancé and that you keep it in a safe spot so that when you’re ready to pop the question, you can easily have access to the ring.

6. Not Having It Documented

Before you propose, consider whether or not you want to hire a photographer or videographer (even if it’s a family member or friend with an iPhone) to be secretly capturing the engagement. Since it’s a moment that will only happen once and and you’ll probably both be nervous, it might be a good idea to invest in a service where they are able to get the best photos and videos of the moment.

7. Letting Your Nerves Get in the Way

Since you’ll find yourself extra nervous on the proposal day, make an effort to avoid showing those nerves to your partner. Try not to be around them when you’re getting anxious or else they might pick up on what’s about to happen and the surprise will be compromised.

See more: 7 Smart Things to Do When You Know a Proposal Is Coming

8. Leaving too Many Clues Around

If your partner is adamant about being surprised during the proposal, work overtime to make sure that you didn’t leave any clues around. Hide the ring in a safe spot that they won’t come across and make sure you don’t have conversations about the proposal with anyone who might leak that information to your partner.

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Wedding

5 Drama Free Ways to Announce Your Engagement

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Spend as much time as you possibly can enjoying the moment you got engaged. Daydream about what it was like, celebrate over and over again with your fiancé, and make sure that you take the time to rest and relax before diving into wedding planning. Which means that after you get engaged, ignore the feeling of wondering if you have to share the news with every single person that you know.

While you might see other people post about their engagement all over their social media feed in what feels like seconds after it happens, you don’t have to do that. You may tell people in your life in small doses or keep it entirely private. If you’re pondering how to announce your engagement without any drama creeping in, here are five ways to do just that.

1. Tell Your Immediate Crew First

The easiest way to stop drama in its tracks is to let your closest friends and family members know that you’re engaged before telling the entire world. After you and your fiancé have taken some one-on-one time to enjoy the moment, find a special way to tell your crew. You can choose to gather them all together and tell them all at once or let each of them know individually. If you go with the second route, make sure you tell them one after another so that they all find out on the same day and don’t feel left out.

2. Talk Through the Potential Drama First

While it’s probably not at the top of your post-engagement to-do list and it probably is a major buzzkill, talk with your fiancé about any potential drama that might surround announcing your engagement. Do you have a friend whose wedding is the next day? Will they be mad if you announce your engagement so close to their big day? Are there certain people you want to hide the engagement from so they don’t try to crash the wedding or send you rude messages? Are there certain people you need to tell ASAP that you’re engaged before the news starts spreading and they get offended? Chat about any possible situations before you plan how you’re going to announce your engagement.

3. Schedule Your Social Posts

If you’re planning on posting something on social media, spend the time to make it unique and personal to you and your fiancé. Share the story of how the question was popped and the emotions behind your response. Plan to share the news on social media during a time that you can take in all of the comments and messages in doses—that way you won’t be overwhelmed with tons of congratulatory comments, messages, and people already reaching out and offering unwarranted wedding advice.

4. Go Offline After You Announce

Once the news is public and you’ve spread your engagement bliss on social media, you may want to spend a few days detached from social media so that you don’t get pulled into a spiral of comments and suggestions about your wedding from friends and family members and can instead enjoy time with your fiancé. To avoid the drama that comes with posting about your engagement online, you might decide to tell people only in real life or through phone calls, and that’s it. That way, you don’t have a ton of semi-friends, but mostly acquaintances, knowing about your engagement.

See more: 7 Creative Ways to Tell Your Family You Got Engaged

5. Keep it Private

The easiest way to avoid all the drama around your new engagement is to keep it almost entirely private. Share the news with your nearest and dearest friends and family members, but only when you’re ready to do so. If you’re planning on having a tiny wedding, you might just keep the entire ordeal private. If you want to have a wedding with a lot of guests, it’s okay to announce your engagement to guests when you send out a save the date.

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