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6 Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas Perfect for Valentine’s Day

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Celebrate Galentine’s Day by popping the bridesmaid question! Here are six seriously adorable bridesmaid proposal ideas for Valentine’s Day.

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8 Real Brides Share Why They Kept Their Wedding a Complete Secret

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These couples have no regrets about their low-key elopements and intimate ceremonies that they’ve kept a secret for months.

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How to Be Happy for Engaged Friends This Engagement Season When Your Love Life is a Mess

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Watching your friends get engaged isn’t easy, but luckily there are ways to make the season a little less painful.

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Winter Wedding Ideas: 10 Things All Guests Love at Winter Nuptials

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Here are 10 genius winter wedding ideas that’ll keep your guests happy (and warm!) during your winter wedding.

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How to Cut Your Wedding Guest List: The 10 People to Cross Off Right Now

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If you’re still unsure how to cut your wedding guest list, use these techniques to narrow it down to the perfect number — sans drama.

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6 Women On Why They Proposed to Their Partner (Because Why Not?)

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When you’re eyeballing your relationship status and feeling extra eager to take things to the next level, the idea of engagement may be permanently sticking in your brain, so much so that you get the urge to pop the question to your partner.

Historically, men have been the ones to get down on one knee with a shiny diamond and a sappy speech, asking their partner if they want to spend forever with them. While that trend is still soaring, more and more women are taking their engagement into their own hands.

Read on to hear the stories of six women who decided to propose to their partner, and what drove them to pop the question.

I Was Getting Antsy

“I had been dating my boyfriend (at the time) for almost eight years. We never talked about getting married but we started dating at age 18 and life was so messy then, between college, graduating, figuring out a postgrad life, etc. When things felt settled and we both had decent jobs and our own place to live, I started hinting at the idea of marriage. He always would smile and laugh but he never like made a move or said he was planning on proposing. On our eight-year anniversary, I got down on one knee, with a ring I bought for $200 for him and said, ‘Let’s get married.’ I think he was half shocked and half pissed at himself for not doing this first. But he said yes and I forgave him for being dumb and not thinking of proposing first. We’re getting married in April of 2020.” —Claire R., 27

I Did It First as a Joke

“We were drunk and on a cruise with a bunch of our friends. We’d been dating for what felt like forever (four years), and one night on the cruise I got down on a knee and said, ‘Marry me?’ All of our friends went crazy. Everyone thought it was a joke. It was but it also was not. Two weeks post-cruise, he got on one knee and asked me for real.” —Jackie W., 32

Women Should Take the Lead

“I’m so against male-oriented traditions. Like why should the guy be the one to decide when it’s the right time to get engaged? No thanks. I asked my husband to marry me. He was not shocked. He said yes and our wedding lacked most traditions. I didn’t walk down an aisle, I didn’t wear a white dress, I didn’t toss flowers to single friends—I did things my way and it was the best night of our lives.” —Chantel E., 32

There’s No Rule Book

“I’m a lesbian and when it came time to figure out who proposes to whom, we didn’t feel there was any rule book. We talked about marriage for years and without her knowing, I proposed first. She said yes and then proposed to me a week later so that I could have the experience too!” —Jenna B., 41

It Was More of an Ultimatum

“I seriously didn’t admit this to many people, but I proposed to my boyfriend because it was either marriage or we break up. I didn’t do anything romantic but I did say to him over dinner that either he marries me or he leaves. It sounds like a terrible thing to do but I’m not into wasting time. I wanted to get our show on the road after two years of dating. Oh, and he did say yes!” —Elise P., 28

See more: Attitudes Toward Women Proposing Are Shifting—So It’s Time We Start Asking

Life’s Too Short to Wait for Someone to Ask You Anything

“Never wait around for someone else to make decisions for you and your life. Life’s too short. After dating my partner for a year, I asked her to marry me. I was terrified and I always imagined she’d do the asking, but I felt like it was time and I wanted to take a chance and just do it. It worked. She said yes, even though she was shocked that I took the lead and popped the question!” —Tami P., 33

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8 Tweets That Sum Up the Most Awkward Parts of Weddings

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At any wedding, there might be moments that range from mildly uncomfortable to downright awkward. It could be because of family drama, vows that took an inappropriate turn or a guest or two who are causing way too much trouble.

When those awkward moments enter the wedding, there’s little you can do except laugh out loud, head to the open bar, or turn to Twitter.

Read on to relate to eight tweets that sum up the most awkward parts of any wedding.

1. When the Best Man Gets Out of Line

At many weddings, there are a handful of troublemakers that the couple getting married knows to keep an eye on. While sometimes those troublemakers are family members or friends’ plus ones, they can also be the best man, who may have too much too drink, too much to say (inappropriately during the toast), or spend too much time flirting with the bridesmaids (or the bride’s sister).

2. When Family Members Butt Heads

While weddings are supposed to be one giant party that’s a good time for all, sometimes they can bring all of the family drama to the surface. One easy way for any wedding to turn awkward is when a screaming match breaks out between family members or when the bride, or groom, is arguing with their parents in front of all the guests.

3. When the Infamous Question Is Asked

The one question that spikes people’s nerves at any wedding and makes things a bit uncomfortable is the question during the ceremony when the officiant asks if anyone has any objections. Even if no one barges through the doors and objects, any little sound, even a cough during that time, can make things feel odd.

4. When the Wedding Party Wears Weird Things

Sometimes the outfit you’re asked to wear as a member of the bridal party is a little wacky. Whether it’s as a guest and you’re told to dress to a theme or wear a certain color, or you’re a member of the wedding party and you have to wear an outfit that turns heads for all of the wrong reasons.

5. The Guests Who Knows Nobody

Every wedding has the awkward handful of guests that don’t know anyone else but they come anyway and spend most of the time scrolling their cell phones, standing on the edge of the dance floor, and attempting to make conversation with people as they order another drink at the open bar.

6. The Weird and Sometimes Messy Traditions

While some wedding traditions get guests to feel overwhelmed with happy tears and joy, like the vows during the ceremony or the couple’s first dance, some traditions make guests feel uncomfortable, like the garter toss or the cake cutting, where the couple feeds each other for what feels like an endless amount of time.

7. The Family That Swears They Know You

Even at your own wedding, you might come across people there that you hardly know. Whether it’s friend’s wedding guests or distant family members your parents begged you to invite, you’ll come across people who will swear they know you and have spent time with you way more than you can remember to be true.

See more: 8 Tweets That Sum Up the Feeling of Giving a Best Man or Maid of Honor Toast

8. The Speeches That Linger

The good news about wedding toasts is that usually, they happen during dinner so you can stuff your face with food while tuning in occasionally. Except that some speeches feel like they linger forever and carry on far too long. Those are the speeches that get people antsy and eager for another drink.

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10 Tweets That Sum Up What It’s Like to Be Someone’s Plus One

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When you’re asked to be someone’s plus one at a wedding, you might feel overwhelmed with emotions, questions, and items on your to-do list, things like what should you wear? Should you bring a gift? Does this mean you have to be on your best behavior or can you get a little wild?

As a wedding date, you might find yourself spending the night at a party with a room full of strangers that somehow become your best friends, or you might find yourself hanging, awkwardly, in the corner, wondering when the cake will be served and you can finally get out of there and go home.

Either way, read on for four tweets that perfectly sum up what being someone’s plus one can be like, depending on the wedding and the crowd.

1. It Can Be a Snooze Fest

If the energy at the wedding feels low and the people there aren’t too friendly, you might find yourself glued to your assigned seat, scrolling on your phone, reading an e-book, or having a staring contest with your date, who has to be there because they are related or friends with the couple whose wedding it is. If you find yourself in that position, turn to your date and make a game plan for how to squeeze some fun out of the night ahead.

2. You Have to Dress Up

Depending on the dress code of the wedding, you might have to go out and rent a suit or a dress, find a specific outfit (if the wedding is themed), or watch a couple of video tutorials on how to tie a bow tie or what black tie really means, if that’s what you’re asked to wear. If you’re a wedding date where there is a strict dress code, plan ahead and plan early so that you’re not stuck scrambling for the right outfit the day of the wedding.

3. You May Meet a Lot of New People

If you know absolutely nobody at the wedding, at least be familiar with the bride and groom and ask your date to introduce you to them ASAP. That way, you won’t find yourself talking to the groom thinking he’s just another wedding guest. Either way, get ready to meet and greet quite a few people that day as it’ll be jam-packed with new faces and plenty of handshakes.

4. You Might Have to Rise to the Occasion Last-Minute

Sometimes as a plus one, you’re asked to be a person’s wedding date the same day as the wedding. If that’s the case, act fast. Try to find a place where you can get the most appropriate thing to wear, even if that means borrowing it from someone else’s closet, and make sure you have enough time to get ready and get there on time. You don’t want to be the person who arrives midceremony and causes a ruckus as the couple is reading their vows.

On the other side of the coin, if you’re invited to a wedding and want to bring a plus one, you’ll have your own set of feelings that run through your head. Maybe you’ll feel more confident because you’ll be able to spend your evening with a partner in crime. With someone by your side, you can bust out your best dance moves on the dance floor beside them, cheers with glasses of champagne, and have someone to taste-test desserts with you as the night comes to an end.

Here are five tweets that truly sum up what bringing a plus one to a wedding is really like.

1. You Have a Dance Partner the Entire Time

A big plus of having a plus one is that you have someone to get down with you on the dance floor all night. Which means you don’t have to worry about people judging you for busting out your finest dance moves, solo, you now have a partner in crime to share the dance floor with you until the very last moment of the party.

2. You Have a Drinking Buddy

One of the biggest wedding perks for any guest is the open bar, which can serve up your favorite beverages all night long. That’s why when you have a plus one, you can have someone accompany you to the bar, cheers to a fun night with a glass of champagne or mixed drink.

3. You Can Share a Really Fun Date Night

Consider a wedding with a plus one a really nice date night where you can spend the night together dancing, chomping down on good food, indulging in yummy dessert, and having a great time, while surrounded by a hundred people who are also having a good time. Whether you bring someone you met recently as your plus one or you head to the wedding with someone you’ve been with for many years (or are married to) weddings can feel like the ultimate night out with your partner.

4. You Have Someone to Share With

With a plus one, you now have someone you can split things with at the wedding, whether that’s a selection of desserts from the dessert buffet to the chicken and the steak dishes you each order during the reception, you have a person you can share with to get the most out of the wedding and also to fill your plate up with even more of the things you like.

See more: 7 Hilarious Tweets About Being a Wedding Guest

5. Sometimes You Want a Plus One for Fun

If you’re always the solo wedding guest, sometimes you just want to be allowed to bring a plus one so that you have the option to bring someone, even if that means you have to search high and low to find someone to bring. But sometimes you just want a plus one for a little fun (not as fun as this person in the tweet because that can make the couple stressed out to have to pay for a person who doesn’t show up).

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5 Women Who Have Each Been a Bridesmaid 10 Times Tell All

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A lot of what it takes to be a seriously supportive rock-star bridesmaid is knowing what to do, where to be, and how to say no to things you just don’t want to do. But figuring out how to make it to the wedding day without losing your cool with the bride or the other members of the bridal party can be tricky. Often it requires patience, trial and error, and walking down the aisle a few times before ditching the title of rookie bridesmaid.

Wondering what you need to know as you take on the role of being a bridesmaid? Read on to hear the advice of five bridesmaids who have been a member of a bridal party 10 times—each!

Be careful about saying yes to everything

“Bridesmaid mistake number one is saying yes to everything. When I first started being a bridesmaid, the only word out of my mouth was yes. When brides asked me to do ridiculous things, like call family members and tell them they were being too dramatic, or spend $1,500 on a weekend in Vegas for their bachelorette party, I instantly said of course. Why not? All of that adds up and you become miserable. I started thinking before responding and only saying yes to things I wanted to help with, could afford to go to, and had the energy to be a part of. Being a bridesmaid doesn’t mean you have to do everything the bride says. It means you have to support her however you can, and want.” —Brittany T., 37

Don’t feel like you need to give a gift for everything

“All of my friends from college got married before we all turned 28. I was constantly going to weddings and spending the little money I was making at my entry-level job on things for everyone else’s wedding (I didn’t get married until years later). One thing I realized: People expect you to get them a gift for everything. I was buying one present for the engagement party, another for the bridal shower, and a big one for the wedding. That ended after wedding number three, when I realized I was buying my friends too many things. I implemented a one-gift rule. I spent just $125 and gave the couple a check at their wedding. That’s all I could afford then, and that’s all I gave.” —Erin W., 35

Don’t buy a new dress each time

“Please, never buy a bridesmaid dress. You and your closet will be mad at you later. I have a total of 12 bridesmaid dresses. That’s over $3,000 of clothing I will never wear again because, honestly, where would I? If I can give you one piece of advice, it would be to find the dress used, rent it, or see if you can borrow it for free. Save your cash for pieces of clothing you’ll actually wear again in your lifetime.” —Shelby D., 39

Don’t be afraid to ask

“Want to bring a plus one? Want to skip the bachelorette party because the thought of going to a club and getting bottle service skeeves you out? Speak up. As a seasoned bridesmaid (10 times before I turned 30), I’ll tell you a secret. The only way to make it through the wedding without resenting the bride or your role as her bridesmaid is to be open and honest about things. She’s busy and stressed. She can’t read your mind. Ask for what you want and need so you can be the best bridesmaid ever.” —Tory S., 31

See more: 5 Women Break Down How They Spent Over $2,500 on Being a Bridesmaid

Don’t take it all too seriously

“It’s over when the couple says ‘I do.’ Try not to take any of the wedding drama to heart. It can be a bummer to deal with a difficult or emotional bride, or just one who has no idea what she needs to do, saves it all for the last minute and begs for your help. I’ve done this bridesmaid thing more times than I can count on my hands. I gave up years ago caring too much about it and instead show up when I need to, say no when I want to, and remember that a wedding is a party and I’m going to have fun no matter what.” —Diane G., 33

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5 Things to Include in the Wedding Day Letter You Write Your Partner

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On the morning of your wedding, as the nerves settle into your stomach and you’re finding yourself crossing the final items off of your wedding to-do list, one of our favorite wedding traditions is exchanging a handwritten letter with your partner. This letter exchange takes the place of spending the morning with the person you’re about to marry and instead, lets both of you take some alone time to prepare (and get glammed up for the big day), solo, before seeing each other later in the day for the first look.

So what belongs inside the letter? Make the words, the stories, the promises, and the memories that you jot down be personal and heart thumping so that your partner not only has a keepsake item to hold onto once the big day is over, but also something to make them smile before the big day actually begins.

Read on to find out the five things to include in the special wedding day letter you pen for your partner’s eyes and their eyes only.

1. Your Reason Why

When your partner starts reading the letter, one of the very first things you want to write is your reason for loving them unconditionally and your reason for wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. It sounds like a mushy way to start the letter but it’s a great way to begin your wedding day. Your partner can spend a couple of minutes basking in all of the reasons why you feel committed, confident, and connected to them.

2. Your Hope for the Day

One thing that’s certain about the wedding day is that it will fly by fast. As your partner begins their day reading your words, add in a part about how you hope the day will go and what you look forward to doing together. Maybe your biggest hope is that you both get to enjoy every bite of the food and a slice, or two of cake, or you’re most looking forward to your first dance (that you practiced close to 20 times in your living room). Either way, share some of your hopes for the wedding day so that your partner can look forward to the fun ahead.

3. Your Promise for the Future

As your partner reads the letter you wrote on the morning of your wedding, one part that they’ll look forward to eyeballing is the part about your promises for the future. Some of those promises might be saved for the vows you read during the ceremony, but in the letter, go wild with some promises that are laugh-out-loud funny. Promises that include inside jokes (like I promise to let you watch Sunday and Monday night football or I promise to let you use my Netflix account) can add some humor and fun to the letter and lend to the more serious vows you recite in front of your closest friends and family members later on in the day.

4. Your “I Fell in Love” Memory

Remember the moment you knew the person you’re marrying was the one for you? Perhaps it was on a specific date, after something they said, or because of an accumulation of things that happened over time. Recalling those memories brings the beauty of your relationship to the surface and lets you walk into the wedding day treating your partner to a spectacle of moments when your love first sparked and how much it’s grown and flourished since then.

See more: 6 Things You Have to Do After Your Wedding — Even Before You Hit the Hotel Room

5. Your Proudest Moment

A great way to end the letter is with a moment or two when you felt the proudest of your partner. Perhaps it was after they achieved a major life accomplishment or maybe it was when they found themselves closer to conquering a life-long dream. Either way, sharing a time when they inspired you, motivated you, or just made you feel like you’re with the kind of person that’s going to push you toward working hard for the things in life you desperately want is a wonderful way to breathe a final bit of energy and outlook for your future together, taking on the challenges of the world year by year.

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8 Couples Share Why They Got Engaged After Knowing Each Other for Less Than 2 Months

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Dating can sometimes feel like a game, where time, energy, and awkward firsts are exchanged. But for some couples, it’s not about following a rule book, or even a timeline for that matter—it’s about trusting their gut, or their heart, and deciding to take things to the next level with the person of their dreams, even if they’ve only known that person for a very short time.

Read on to hear stories of 8 couples who share why they got engaged after only knowing each other for less than two months.

1. It Was a Shotgun Wedding

“Shortly after our first few dates, I got pregnant. Yes, we hardly knew each other, but now we were having a baby together. We decided that we were not only going to keep the baby but that we were going to tie the knot. We’ve since been married for three years.” —Lisa S., 27

2. When You Know, You Know

“We dated for a month and spent practically every single day together. We were living together by week number two. I know that sounds extremely fast but we just knew that we were soulmates. We were in our forties and by that age, you just meet someone and know.” —Diane R., 49

3. Our Parents Were Already Pissed

“We both are from very different religious backgrounds. I’m Jewish and my husband is Muslim. When we started dating, our parents were very upset at us. They did everything they could to keep us apart, including taking away our cell phones and computers so we couldn’t communicate with each other. We would sneak out to see each other and after a little while we just snuck away and got married. We’ve only been married six months. Our parents do not talk to us and haven’t since they found out.” —Erica P., 29

4. I Didn’t Want to Do Long Distance

“I started dating someone who lived in Canada (and I was living in Los Angeles) and we spent a few weeks talking on the phone, FaceTiming, and spending weekends flying back and forth to see each other. We knew this wasn’t going to be sustainable. When he asked if we should just get married, I figured why not? It would eventually make him a U.S. citizen and it could be a less hectic way for us to give this a shot. We did it and we were divorced only four months later.” —Cynthia S., 32

5. We Figured Life Was Short

“I have always believed in love at first sight because I’m a hopeless romantic who wants to live out a fairytale situation with my spouse. After the first date, I knew I met my Prince Charming. He felt like he met the love of his life. We saw each other a lot in the first month and then about 6 weeks into dating, he popped the question, and I said yes. We’re planning on getting married in 2019.” —Sandy F., 29

6. It Was a Drunken Decision

“Simply put, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas, unless you meet a random guy at a nightclub, get blackout drunk, and wake up married. Sounds like a bad movie? It was my life. It took a month to get the marriage annulled and a lifetime to get my friends and family to stop talking about it.” —Terri V., 31

7. It Was Husband #3

“What’s the third marriage? Really, it’s nothing. I asked my husband to marry me on the second date. He said sure. It sounds crazy but when you’re my age, you don’t believe in playing the long game when it comes to dating, you just go for it. We’ve been married, happily, for five years.” —Grace B., 64

See more: This Is How Long Most Couples Date Before Getting Married These Days

8. It Was Mostly for the Benefits

“I work for myself and my husband works for a big company with lots of benefits. I, no joke, was like, ‘Can we just get married so I can be on your insurance?’ He laughed and then said okay. We had only known each other for two months. I also really knew he was awesome then, so it wasn’t just for benefits, but that didn’t hurt! We’re still married (two years later) and I have the best health insurance of any freelancer in the world!” —Rochelle W., 26

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5 Tips to Get Your Thank You Notes Done in Less Than 2 Hours

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We know, we know—you want your wedding day to last forever. Which might make you find a bit of solace in knowing that even after the DJ spins the last song of the night and all of your guests head home, your wedding to-do list still has one big task for you to complete: thank-you notes.

Letting your guests know that you appreciate them for helping you celebrate your wedding, whether that was by sending well wishes or by attending the celebration, is the best way to close up shop on your wedding. Not to mention, it makes your closet friends and family members feel good about all that they did to help make the day wonderful for you and your new spouse.

If you’re eager to get those thank-you notes out of the way so you can jet off on your honeymoon or just get some much-needed rest, here are five tips to knock them out in less than two hours.

1. KISS Them

While you might be tempted to write each and every guest a long thank-you note that echoes sentiments of gratefulness and takes the time to recall the best memories from your wedding, KISS your cards: Keep it short and simple.

If there are a handful of people that you really want to go above and beyond in thanking, set their cards to the side and give them personalized attention after finishing everyone else’s.

2. Go With a Fill-in-the-Blank Method

One easy way to get through them with speed and grace is to stick to a template. Just fill in the blank based on the person and the gift they gave you.

You can start each note with a line or two thanking them for either coming to your wedding or for sending a gift. Then explain either how you plan to put that gift to use or how grateful you are for the gift they gave you.

After that, wish them well by either referencing when you look forward to seeing them again or just letting them know you hope to celebrate another great occasion with them soon.

3. Split the List in Half

It might be overwhelming to eyeball a list of hundreds of people you have to write a mini-letter to. To make the process fly by, split the list in half. Work for 20 minutes straight and then take a five-minute break. Dividing and conquering with short breaks will make the two hours productive and help you finish these thank-you cards in no time.

4. Consider a Postcard

While you might have your eyes and your heart set on investing in special stationery for your thank-you cards, instead consider doing a postcard. That way, you have a smaller amount of space to fill with writing a note and you don’t have to worry about stuffing envelopes, which can cut out a good chunk of time when you’re working on 100 or 200 thank-you cards.

See more: 16 Wedding Thank You Notes You Can Buy Right Now

5. Go Virtual

It might seem like you’re ditching the personal aspect to your thank-you cards, but going virtual is a great way of creating a personalized guest experience where not only can you send an e-card with a typed note (longer than the one you could ever handwrite for each guest) but you can also send them a video clip or photo from the wedding.

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6 Costs You Can Cut for Your Bridesmaids

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If you’re looking to set the bar high in terms of goals you want to have for yourself when it comes to wedding planning, why not start with your bridesmaids? Learning that they have to pay for more than they imagined or can afford is one of the biggest pet peeves of any best friend or sibling you’ve asked to serve as a member of your bridal party. Rather than asking your bridesmaids to take out a small loan to afford all the things you want them to do and buy, find ways to save them money, or cut out some expenses altogether. Start with the list below of costs you can easily cut for your bridesmaids.

1.The Bridesmaid Dress

While it might be tempting to pick out a specific dress style and brand that you absolutely adore and have always imagined your bridesmaids wearing, one big cost you can cut out is a brand new dress. Instead, you can pick a color, or a couple of shades of a color, and ask your bridesmaids to pick a dress they already own that fits those specifications. If they don’t have anything that matches, you can even encourage them to borrow a dress from a friend, or suggest shops that aren’t as expensive.

2. Paying For Hair and Make-Up

One big expense that can creep up on your bridesmaids last-minute is the cost of getting their hair and makeup done on your wedding day. If you hire a team to perform those services, it can cost your friends upwards of $100 for them to get glammed up. Instead, let them DIY their own look or cover the cost of these services for them as their gift and a big thank-you for taking on the role of being a bridesmaid at your wedding.

3. Bachelorette Party Accommodations and Travel

If spending seems to be something that is stressing out your bridesmaids and making them feel a bit down on the entire wedding experience, opt-out of planning an elaborate bachelorette party that has your squad hopping on a plane and booking a weekend-long hotel room. Instead, do something locally. You can still have the most memorable bachelorette party of your life by doing things that are close by. Plus, you’ll save your bridesmaids hundreds of dollars just by eliminating the costs of flights and hotel rooms.

4. Any Type of Formal Wedding Gift

By the time your wedding comes around, your bridesmaids will have spent quite a lot on a bunch of different expenses. Instead of making them feel like they have to spend another chunk of cash on a wedding gift, let them know ahead of time that you appreciate every single thing they have done and you consider all of that the best, and only, wedding gift they need to give you. Communicating that ahead of time will put them at ease and set expectations.

5. Taking Off Time From Work

While it might not be an obvious way of saving your bridesmaids money, planning pre-wedding events that don’t require your bridesmaids to take days off work can help them out financially. That way, they can save their vacation days for their own time off or emergencies that pop up along the year without having to take any paid time off.

See more: 5 Women Break Down How They Spent Over $2,500 on Being a Bridesmaid

6. Bridal Shower Decorations

If you find yourself getting Pinterest obsessed and wanting to have the kind of bridal shower that looks like it should go viral on social media, either take a few steps back on the number of decorations you have or buy them yourself, without dipping into the pockets of your bridesmaids. While there’s no set plan for who should pay for the bridal shower, if it’s something you can ask your family members to help with over your bridesmaids, that is one more way you can save them a lot of money.

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Have You Found The One? 10 Signs You've Found Your Life Partner

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How do you know that you’ve found the one? Chances are it’s because you’re dating someone completely different from any of your ex’s or they’ve gotten you to care less about Netflix binging and more about spending quality time with them.

But how do you know you want to marry someone? Usually, it’s when we find someone who makes us ditch our bad habits and become better at being in a relationship than just being solo. That’s when you start to realize that your partner is someone you could, and should, spend the rest of your life with.

That’s what these 10 people below share as they open up about the signs that let them know they had found the one and why they realized their partner was marriage material.

1. They Make Me Less Stubborn

“My girlfriend is the only person in the world who accepts how stubborn I am but also has a way of getting me to stop being stubborn. I realized she was marriage material when I found myself giving into her suggestions without putting up a fight. I think she’s definitely smarter than I am so when I got to know her I just decided to trust her opinions instead of being so hard headed. Rarely has it been a bad decision.” —Troy G.,29

2. They Pay Attention to Me in Bed

“So many of the women I slept with only cared about themselves in bed. Everything was about them. The first time I slept with my wife, she asked what she could do to make me feel good. It was a question that lit this lightbulb in my head and made me think, ‘Oh, I think I’ve found the one.’” —Eric E., 31

3. I Never Grow Tired of Them

“Every guy I’ve ever dated made me bored by month three. It was like clockwork. We’d be having fun and then I’d start to grow tired of them. Everything they did, all their quirks, would make me start to grow tired of them. I’d break things off before we hit month four. As I was dating my now husband, I got really nervous when we hit three months together. But I felt different for him than I’ve ever felt. He kept things interesting. The next thing I knew, we were dating for 9 months and then two years. We’ve been married now for three years.” —Slyvia P., 33

4. They Treat Me Like My Mother

“Is there a saying that you should find a girl who takes care of you like your mom does? Because that’s how my girlfriend treats me and it’s making me put a ring on her finger. I never dated someone who took care of me, who made sure that life was easy, which is what my mom does for me. It sounds weird to say I’m dating a girl like my mom. But I am and I’m asking her to marry me next month.” —Sal W., 28

5. They Have Substance

“I got used to dating these women who were so basic. They’d talk about surface level things like their job, things they saw on social media, or the bars around town they spent time at. I seriously dated one person for almost a year until I realized I knew nothing about her. My wife was the first person I dated where on date one, we talked about real stuff. I knew she had substance to her when she said she volunteered at a dog adoption spot, didn’t watch TV but read a lot of books, and had a strong political stance. Talking to her was fun and it made me care about new topics. I knew she was different from most women out there and I felt lucky to have her in my life. It was an easy choice to propose and make her my wife.” —Greg P., 31

6. They Don’t Put Out and Leave

“I felt like most guys I dated would hook up with me and then leave. When I started dating my boyfriend, he said he wanted to wait to even have sex until we knew each other well. We waited for two months to finally do it. What I liked about that was that he proved to me he was serious about this relationship and not just about getting some and then leaving. It made our relationship start off on a good foundation of respect and trust. I knew from the start he’s someone I want to spend my life with.”—Wendy S., 35

7. I Actually Cared About Them

“I can be pretty selfish and into my own ego. In most of my prior relationships, I didn’t care too much about the other person. It was almost like they were there to be my accessory. But seriously all of that changed two years ago when I met my girlfriend. When we started dating, at first, I didn’t care a lot about her or the relationship. But I swear, she has this magic spark or something where I fell hard for her and I find that I care about her more than me. Like when she’s sick or needs my help, I don’t lie and say I’m busy. I show up and do whatever I can to make her feel better or be happy. That’s true love.” —Rick G., 26

8. They Broke My Heart

“She dumped me and that’s when I knew she was the one I wanted to marry. Maybe I love the chase. Maybe I drama. Whatever it was, right after she dumped me, I campaigned hard to get her back. I bought a ring, showed up at her door, and told her I wanted her to be my wife. For some reason, the girl who dumped me and broke my heart, said yes, and became my wife. Ladies, break up with your man. They’ll come crawling back hard if they really think you’re marriage material!” —Joey S. 34

9. They Were Serious About Their Future

“I remember on like date three or four, my husband started talking about the future (not with me or anything but more so just what he wanted). He told me he’s working hard now to save money so he can start a family later. He laid out the plans he had and I found it sexy. It was a big change meeting someone who took family and finances seriously. From that date on I knew he could be the one I settled down with.” —Yvonne D., 31

See more: 8 Women on How Their Partner Made Them A Better Person

10. My Therapist Told Me

“I honestly didn’t know my girlfriend was marriage material. My therapist kept telling me to open my eyes and not let her go with my usual antics. I usually push people away and get scared of commitment. I’ve dated people before for years and never proposed. My therapist gets a major shoutout because now I’m engaged to the right person and it’s only because I got a little help in seeing that I was already dating the one I’m supposed to spend my life with.” — Ryan Y., 32

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6 Brides Share How They Incorporated CBD Into Their Wedding

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One of the biggest trends taking over industries from food and drink to beauty and skin care is the introduction of CBD-infused products.

People are looking into items with CBD oil in them because, unlike tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), which causes the sensation of getting high, CBD is not psychoactive at all. Those using it are flocking to it for it for other reasons since it’s said to help with pain, stress, and anxiety.

Which is why some brides are finding new and unique ways to bring CBD to their wedding, without scaring away guests if they don’t want to give it a try.

Check out these six brides who incorporated CBD into their wedding.

CBD Coffee

“We are big CBD users and we wanted to incorporate CBD into our wedding. We figured if we had the caterer use it in food or sauces that some of our guests would be weirded out. We decided to have a table where people could drink late-night CBD lattes. We figured it would calm people down, make them feel a little sleepy, and be a great way to end the night. Out of 115 guests, at least 75 people tried the CBD latte station. It was a huge hit.” —Reese G., 34

CBD Oil

“We live on the East Coast and got married in California (where my husband’s family lives). When we got there, I noticed my skin was so dry and that my usual moisturizer was failing me. His sister gave me this moisturizer with CBD oil in it. At first, I was like what is this and should I use it? She swore by it. I used it every day for a week leading up to my wedding and used it on my wedding day. Honestly, it worked better than my usual moisturizer. I didn’t want my family to know so I hid the bottle. There’s a weird stigma around CBD and I don’t want people to know I used it on my face.” —Marianne D., 28

CBD Lube

“We’ve been CBD lube users for the past few months. Maybe it’s just in my head but I think it helps me orgasm a lot faster and it makes sex feel better overall. As we were packing to head to the bridal suite, I literally asked my fiancé to make sure he packed the lube so that we had it with us on that night!” —Sharon E., 32

CBD Stress Relief

“I’ve never used CBD or even smoked weed before. I think that’s important to know because, before my wedding, I was new to this world. But as I was planning my wedding, I became the ultimate stressed-out bridezilla. Everything launched me into a having a major meltdown. My friend was like, ‘I have a stress reliever spray. Let me spray it on your tongue.’ So I said yes. It ended up being a CBD spray for stress. I don’t know how or why but it worked like magic. I started using it three times a day and had it close by with me on my wedding day.” —Tory P., 27

CBD Snacks

“My husband and I use CBD oil a lot when we cook. We decided to bake our own late-night snack for our wedding and made double-chocolate CBD cookies. We packaged each one and had them displayed on a table with a sign that explained what CBD is and why it’s something guests should try. The cookies were gone in seconds. We didn’t even get to try them. It was a great idea for a late-night snack.” —Melissa R., 28

See more: 11 CBD-Oil-Infused Beauty Products for the Chill Bride

CBD Cocktail

“Before my wedding started, Instead of doing a champagne toast, I had the whole wedding party cheers with a CBD-infused cocktail. I wanted everyone to feel less anxious and stressed walking down the aisle and this is how I thought people could do that. It did make some of my bridesmaids super sleepy and some act a little too drunk.” —Serena W., 31

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8 Tweets That Sum Up The Feeling of Giving a Best Man or Maid of Honor Toast

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As you’re sorting through your responsibilities as the bride or the groom’s leader of the wedding party, you’ll notice there are a few big tasks that you have to conquer. One of those might be planning pre-wedding activities, like a bachelor or bachelorette party, and the other will be writing a memorable, funny, and emotional wedding toast.

If you’re someone who dreads public speaking, flirts with writer’s block, or just doesn’t even know where to start when it comes to putting together a toast, the idea of giving a speech on the couple’s wedding day can seem daunting and overwhelming.

To help get you started, and make you laugh, here are eight tweets that sum up what giving a best man or maid of honor toast is really like.

1. You’re Going to Have to Control Your Emotions

Even if the main goal of your speech is to make the newlywed couple all warm and fuzzy inside, don’t think that you’re exempt from feeling those emotions too. Practice your speech over and over, and insert pauses throughout, just in case you burst out into happy tears. If that does happen, keep tissues close by and hand a copy of the speech to the couple after, so they can read over the parts that might have come out jumbled from too much emotion pouring out of you.

2. You Want It to Sound #Adult

If you’re not an avid speech giver, chances are, this wedding toast will be the first public talk you’ve given in a while. When deciding what format and style to go with, keep the speech mature and leave out the urge to do one long rhyming poem.

3. It’s Tempting to Wait Until the Last Minute

If you’re fighting with writer’s block and a gnarly to-do list that’s keeping you away from putting the pen to the paper, you may find yourself waiting until the very last minute to write your speech. Try to piece together ideas and structure ahead of time, even if that means putting the final touches on the speech a few days before. That way, you won’t be looking at a blank piece of paper hours before the speech is supposed to be given.

4. You Face a Lot of Writer’s Block

While it might feel weird to be at a loss of words for a person that means so much to you, it’s completely normal. You have too much to say about this person who has stuck by you throughout your life and because of that, it’s hard to figure out where to start. Think about a memory that often replays in your head about them and consider starting with that story.

5. You’ll Wish You Had a Speech Writer to Hire

After spending many hours trying to piece together a memorable speech, you’ll start to wonder if it’s worth it to just fork over the cash to hire a speech writer. That way, your speech can be exactly how you want it to be and you can carry on with the rest of your wedding party duties.

6. You’ll Be Tempted to Keep It Short and Sweet

If you’re the kind of person who doesn’t like public speaking or writing speeches, you’ll want to keep your wedding toast short and sweet. But how short is too short? For best results, keep your speech under five minutes and over 90 seconds. You should have enough time to tell a few stories and give well wishes to the couple without sounding too generic.

7. You Feel Pressure to Make People Feel Things

Putting your own emotions aside about writing this speech, you’ll start to put a lot of pressure on yourself to write a speech that makes people feel something. At times, you’ll want them to be laughing, crying, happy, or just excited for the couple. All of those emotions will come through in the words you pick and also in the way you deliver the speech to the audience.

See more: 40 Wedding Toast Quotes & Ideas for Every Speech

8. You’ll Consider Just Winging It

After a lot of back and forth, and quality time spent with a blank piece of paper, you might just throw your hands in the air and decide to wing the speech. Even if you’ve decided to give minimal preparation for your speech, be sure to have talking points and practice too. You don’t want to ramble or run out of things to say too early.

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How to Return Wedding Gifts You Know You’ll Never Use

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When your wedding is all said and done, you’ll hopefully be left with a handful of good memories, a couple hundred photos, and a pile of gifts. As you’re ripping off the wrapping paper and uncovering the items that your guests have given you, you might notice that some of those gifts will never be used, cared for, or looked at again.

So what should you do with the gifts that you’re most likely going to bury underneath a pile of things you never use in your garage or shoved in the back of a closet? You should try to return them to get money or get something else from the store that you’ll actually use instead.

Here’s how you can return your unwanted wedding gifts. The best part is, the people who gave you the gift never have to know.

Sort Through Gifts ASAP

When the wedding ends, you’re going to feel tempted to want to sit back and relax, taking time off to recover from all things wedding. But before you kick your feet up and catch up on your favorite TV shows, the very first thing you should do is rip open the wrapping paper on your wedding gifts. Start sorting the items you received into two piles: a keep pile and a return pile.

If you received a lot of registry gifts at your bridal shower, be sure to separate them into piles right after as well.

After you’ve made your piles, start taking action. Examine the gifts in your return pile. Do you have a gift receipt for them? Do you know where they were purchased? To meet most store’s return policies, you want to bring items back within the month they were gifted to you. That way, you have a better chance at getting money back or a store credit.

Look Up the Store’s Return Policy

If you have a receipt for the gift, look up to see how long you have until you can no longer return it. Some stores give money back within 30 days and then after that, give store credit.

If you find that you don’t have a receipt for the gift, but you know exactly where it was purchased, it’s worth taking the item to the store, asking to speak with a manager, and explaining that it was given to you as a wedding gift. Stores like Nordstrom, Macy’s, Target, and TJ Maxx, have a reputation for being great with returns or working with customers who don’t have a receipt. Usually, they can scan the barcode on the item, see when it was purchased, and give you the amount that the item is valued at now (if it was purchased months or even years ago).

Ask the Gift Giver for More Information

Sometimes, after your wedding ends, you find that you are left with a pile of gifts that you have no idea where they were bought. If they end up in your return pile, strike up a conversation with the gift giver to inquire about more information. Casually ask them where they bought it from so that you can investigate the return policy.

See more: How to Write a Thank-You Note for a Gift You Returned

Swap It, Sell It, Store It to Regift

If you’re finding yourself eyeballing a dead end when trying to return a specific item that you just don’t want, you might want to resort to getting your money back or your money’s worth in other ways. If you’ve been given a gift card you know you’ll never use, you can swap it for another one using a website like Cardpool. You can also sell your gifts on Facebook Marketplace or using the website Tradsey. Or, if you’ve received a gift that you know you can’t use, but someone else would adore, you can store it away to regift for someone’s next birthday, holiday, or wedding gift.

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5 Ways to Solve Common Relationship Fights

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Within every relationship is a laundry list of memories, adventures, milestones, and of course, arguments that just won’t seem to go away. Most couples have those clingy fights that come out and interrupt the flow of the relationship and no matter how many times both people agree to put an end to the disagreement, it always seems to creep back into things, usually without much warning.

Figuring out ways to keep your relationship moving forward while there are lingering fights can be tough. If you’re finding yourself fuming with frustration over how to finally ditch the common fights that keep surfacing in your relationship, here are five ways to get rid of them for good.

1. Have Weekly Progress Check-ins

One of the biggest ways to help push past the most stubborn fights you and your partner are having is to spend time communicating about them. Even if you’ve made it through an entire week without that fight knocking on your front door, having weekly check-ins to talk about progress or steps each of you are taking to work through problems before they become big fights can be helpful. That way, there’s no secret build up of tension or resentment that comes out to play in a major blowout fight down the road.

2. Head to a Couple’s Therapist

Even if the idea of going to couple’s therapy makes you feel overwhelmed, it might be a good option if you and your partner are working through common fights that you just can’t resolve. If it seems like a big step to get professional help, start by going to therapy solo first and then propose the idea of going together. Come prepared with a list of topics and issues you want to work on so that during the first session, neither of you are caught off guard.

3. Set a Fighting Deadline

When the common fight that you two spar with in your relationship comes up, set a deadline for how much back and forth you two can have before you both agree to put an end to the arguing and move on for the time being. You can set a timer on your phone or pick an hour of the day that both of you will agree to come together and drop the topic so that it doesn’t consume all of your time together.

4. Hold Each Other Accountable

As you make progress in dealing with the common fights that spring up, hold each other accountable along the way. Create a list of things each of you are going to do to flip your behavior when you’re in the middle of that popular fight. Post that list somewhere visible or store it on your phone so that you can make sure that both of you are following those new rules. Maybe it’s an agreement to let the other person speak, try to see yourself in their shoes, or to leave past situations in the past.

See more: Crazy Fights Couples Had the Day Before the Wedding

5. Get to the Bottom of the Fight

If there are a few common fights that keep on plaguing the relationship, work together to get to the bottom of why each of those disagreements won’t go away. Is it because of something bigger and deeper like a lack of trust or respect? Or is something that can be explored more, like miscommunication or a personal insecurity? Usually, there’s something else that’s fueling those common fights. Open up a dialogue so that both people in the relationship can express what’s really and truly bothering them.

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5 Women Break Down How They Spent Over $2,500 on Being a Bridesmaid

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One of the fastest ways to say a quick goodbye to the cash in your savings account is to take on the role of being a bridesmaid. Before you know it, you’ll be spending more money than you ever imagined on travel, gifts, decorations, and a dress that you’ll most likely never wear again. Even if you set a budget, you may be asked to fork over more cash for unexpected costs, like the bride’s bachelorette expenses, bridal shower decorations, or just pop-up wedding day items the bride forgot to buy.

Just take a look at these five bridesmaids, who each spent over $2,500 on being a bridesmaid, to see where all their money went.

1. I Spent too Much on a Dress

“I spent close to $800 on just the bridesmaid dress. The bride did let us pick any dress that we wanted and so I wanted to invest in a dress that I’d wear again. I picked one that was around $500 and then had to spend a couple of hundred dollars on alterations. I also spent close to $900 on the bride’s bachelorette party because there were only four of us that went and we covered all her expenses for a weekend in Nashville. Altogether, I spent $450 on gifts for the engagement party, wedding, and bridal shower. Finally, my hotel for the wedding weekend was $380 and I didn’t have anyone to share a room with so I paid for that on my own.” —Teresa P., 29

2. I Gave More Gifts Than Needed

“This was my first time being a bridesmaid and it drained me dry in the financial department! I didn’t realize I was going to need to spend close to $500 on gifts for the bride. I bought her an expensive bracelet for her engagement party because I knew she wanted to wear to the wedding so I bought it for her months before. I got her three things from her registry and spent close to $300. For the wedding, I wrote a check for $400 to cover myself and my plus one. That was just the money I spent on gifts! Then, I spent $1,500 on the wild bachelorette party in Miami where each bridesmaid paid $500 on a night of bottle service at a club. The last big expense was the dress. I spent a total of $350 on it. I seriously refuse to be a bridesmaid again for a long time.” —Marnie F., 25

3. I Paid for the Bridal Shower

“I have an event planning background so the bride asked me to plan her bridal shower. Of course I said yes but that was before I realized I would have to front the bill for it. The bride’s family said they couldn’t afford to pay for it and the other bridesmaids said no too. I ended up planning it and spending $1,500 just at the party. That was what I counted as her wedding gift. I spent another $400 on her ‘local’ bachelorette to a winery and $250 on a bridesmaid dress. My hotel for the wedding was $300. It was an expensive ordeal!” —Erin S., 31

4. The Bachelorette Party Was International

“I spent $3,500 just on the bride’s bachelorette party to Costa Rica. We went for five days. It was more than I wanted to spend but I felt like I had to because everyone else was going and I couldn’t be the only one to say no. I then spent an additional $1,500 on everything else (dress, shoes, gifts, hotel for the wedding, flights to the wedding). The worst part was the bride never even acknowledged how much this cost me or said thank you.” —Ashley B., 29

See more: 7 Tweets That Sum Up the Drama of Being a Bridesmaid

5. It All Just Added Up

“By the end of the wedding, I spent a total of $2,575 on the whole thing. The dress alone was $500 and that wasn’t my choice. That’s the dress the bride picked out! I spent another $150 on alterations and another $200 on these gold shoes the bride demanded we wear. The bachelorette party was a weekend in Vegas and that cost me $950 (and that’s only because I was stingy with food and drink. I also didn’t gamble). The wedding gifts cost over $200 and with all my travel and hotel stays, I was well over $2,500.” —Elise G., 27

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7 Tweets That Sum Up How Crazy Expensive Weddings Can Be

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When you’re planning out your dream wedding, one very important detail that you tend to skip right over is how much this whole ordeal is going to cost you. Your dream wedding might be lined with beautiful flowers, live music, and a cake with so many tiers that it practically reaches the ceiling. But when you start to budget every single thing out, you begin to realize that planning a wedding pulls the cash out of all of the savings accounts you’ve worked so hard to grow.

Where does all the money go? Here are seven tweets that perfectly sum up just how crazy expensive weddings can be.

1. Hiring Vendors

One of the fastest ways you’ll start to see your money disappear is when it comes to hiring wedding vendors. As you research and find yourself sitting face-to-face with florists, DJs, caterers, and venues, you’ll notice that you’re spending more cash than you ever imagined to hire each and every one of them.

2. Your Guests Will Never Be Impressed

As your planning your wedding, remember that the things you spend the most money on should be the things that you and your fiancé care about having. Most likely, your guests won’t even notice all of the details you include to impress them. They just want good music, delicious food, and an open bar.

3. Wedding Dress Expense

The dress of your dreams might come with quite the hefty price tag. Often times, your wedding dress will be the most expensive item of clothing you ever buy, which might feel a little odd since you only wear it for just one day.

4. It’s Just Getting More and More Expensive

The price of a wedding is getting more expensive as each year passes. That’s not only because we are all trying to make our weddings more unique than everyone else’s wedding but because some wedding vendors know that if they keep raising their prices, brides will keep coming because they need that Instagram-worthy flower or donut wall.

5. Open Bar Means Open Your Wallet

One of your top must-haves might be having an open bar at your wedding. While your guests will love you for having one, your wallet won’t. Open bars are pricey especially if you’re paying per guest or by the hour.

6. Always One-Upping Each Other

With social media and photos from celebrity weddings posted all over the internet, figuring out ways to make your wedding stand out and be talked about for months to come can make your wedding bill more expensive than you planned for.

See more: 7 Hilarious Tweets That Sum Up What Married Life is Really Like

7. You’re Making the Wedding Bigger Than You Think

Set a budget for your wedding and make sure that everything, from the number of people you invite to the venue you pick, falls within it. Or else, you’ll be spending more than you ever wanted to on a party that only lasts 8 hours.

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