What would you do if you found the engagement ring your significant other was planning to propose with and absolutely hated it? Well, according to the Internet, the one thing you should absolutely *not* do is share a photo of it to Facebook complaining about it.
One woman did just that earlier this week and another online community was not here for it. “Ewwwww,” the woman wrote in a “ring shaming” Facebook group ( yes, those exist) alongside a photo of the ring. “Self shame Friday here I come. Found this in the BF’s nightstand. Not a fan. Please roast and then tell me how to tactfully say no you need to go get something different.”
According to Today, one user of the group apparently then shared a screenshot of the original post to Reddit, where commenters went in on the anonymous woman who initially posted about it. “This is the saddest thing I’ve seen on this sub. It’s one thing when it’s a total stranger, but when someone that’s supposed to love you unconditionally acts like a grifter it’s just plain sad,” one user commented. “I hope he sees this, and then RUNS. To post this degrading sh*t to social media to first insult it, and then ask for ways to get something better from someone she supposedly loves just defies what this ring should really be about and proves she doesn’t even deserve a ring out of a dollar vending machine. This poor, poor man.”
… And those are two of the nicer pieces of feedback.
Others on Reddit took issue with the fact that she was in a “ring shaming” group to begin with. “Oh god. It was bad enough when I thought it was just one person asking their friends and family. But a ring shaming group? Disgusting…” wrote one user. “Wait….So that means she had to have belonged to this ‘ring shaming’ group before she had any idea her boyfriend had a ring, and was just waiting to post about her ring?” wondered another. But considering these types of groups exist in the first place—the group “That’s It, I’m Ring Shaming” has over 19,000 users—this woman clearly isn’t the only one who’s taken to social media to air her grievances. Of course, the anonymous post-er is entitled to her opinions about her engagement ring, but as one Reddit user so aptly put it, “Marriage isn’t about the ring.”
And if you do find yourself in a situation where you don’t like your engagement ring, here’s exactly what you can do about it—please note, “complaining about it to strangers on the Internet” is not one of the suggestions.